Readers believe a couple should work together to overcome barrenness

isaac

May 12, 2015 10:37 AM

Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the belief that couples who are childless need to work together to overcome their problems instead of blaming the woman.

Couples should work together to overcome childlessness

A very sad Pulse reader by the name Imelda sent in a heart rending letter narrating how her husband of 16 years is wants to throw her out of the house because she has not been able to bear children.

Like most Nigerian families placing too much emphasis on children, her husband's family think she is the cause of her childlessness and everyone blames her for it.

Read part of her letter:

"Dear Pulse,

My name is Imelda and I have been married for 16 years without a child to call my own. As I write this, I am full of tears and at times, I am tempted to ask God what I have done to deserve this punishment He is letting me pass through.

I have done several tests and they always come out that there is nothing wrong with me, so I wonder what the cause of my barrenness could be.

The problem I am currently going through now is that everyone seems to think the problem is mine. My husband who is supposed to stand by me has turned his back on me and in the past two years, has made life a living hell for me.

He has drawn me in the mud, all in a bid to drive me away. There is nothing I have not seen in this house but I have decided to stay put and endure every disgrace believing that God will answer my prayers one day.

Now my husband has turned to abusing me both verbally and physically and just two weeks ago, he slapped me in the church over a minor issue.

Some of my friends have been advising me to move out of his house or better still, sleep with another man to see if the problem is not actually from my husband.

The way I am feeling now, I think it is better I commit suicide than live this meaningless life."

Bearing the letter in mind, a post was put up with the poser:

Should a man divorce his wife if she is unable to bear a child?

For the first time, all the voters on the poll were of the opinion that the couple should work together to solve any problem they have.

How Nigeria voted:

0 % - Yes, she is to be blamed for her barrenness

100 % - No, they should work together to solve the problem

So how would you vote?

isaac