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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers advice Folu to stop sleeping with her ex-boyfriend

Readers say a woman who is about to get married but still sleeps with her ex is digging her grave.

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A reader, Folu, a 28-year-old woman who is set to get married in three months time, still sneaks to out to have sex with her ex-boyfriend, Steve, though her introduction with Joey has been formalized. She says she can't stop herself from sleeping with Steve who makes sex seems more enjoyable than what she gets with her fiance.

But fellow readers think she is doing more harm to herself by her addiction.

Read her letter here:

"My name is Folu and I am a 28-year-old lady who is set to wed in the next three months. But I must say that I am in a big trouble at the moment because I can't seem to stop having sex with my ex-boyfriend, Steve, even though I am engaged to be married to Joey, one of the best men I have ever come across.

I dated Steve for six years but we both knew the relationship would lead to no where because Steve is the kind of man ho does not take anything serious. He is not cut out for any serious relationship and marriage is far from his mind.

He is the kind of man one can describe as a lady's man and ladies throw themselves at him at will and he sees nothing wrong in keeping five women at the same time. But one thing is that I am addicted to sex with Steve and I can't seem to help myself where sex is concerned with him.

In fact, the only thing that keeps me binding to him is the great sex we have anytime we are together. It is not as if Joey is not good in bed but Steve is in a class of his own and even though we have had our introduction and the date for our marriage has been set, I still find myself sneaking around to have sex with Steve.

I fear this will continue when I eventually get married to Joey. I want to stop but can't help myself.

What can I do?


Two concerned readers also took time out to advice her:

Oluwafemi Adelodun, Programmer at WAEC Office, Nigeria, wrote:

"Talk to ur pastor about this or ur prayer group leader. Let them organise a deliverance session to separate u spiritually.

Keeping quiet about it or managing it quietly will make u to always sneak to him. May God help you. Amen."

Also toeing in the same line is Dauda Luka, who works with WFP Gui, Garki at Abuja Municipal Area Council (AMAC), who wrote:

"Sneaking to have sex with ur ex-boyfriend will be very detrimental to ur marriage if u don't stop it now. Remember, sex is a binding force between two people, be prayerful and ask God to forgive and help you out of this situation.

Avoid contact with him (ur-Ex) And focus on ur husband to be. If not now, I see ur marriage crashing before ur very eyes in no just time........! Be wise."

So what would your advice to Folu be?

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