Nigeria is currently going through the most difficult patch in its history at the moment with the recession biting hard.
Before you think the world has finally collapsed on you and you need to end it all, think of the consequences the action will have on your family, friends, loved ones and the society.
Things are really difficult with the economic situation looking really grim. Many people have lost their jobs and sources of livelihood while the cost of living is hitting the roof.
Some parents have found it extremely difficult in taking up their responsibilities while young men are finding it difficult to get married due to the situation in the country.
These and much more have combined to escalate the high rate of depression, mental illness and the propensity for them to lose hope and give up but before you contemplate letting go and killing yourself, you need to think twice.
Here are the 10 things you need to consider before taking your life.
1. Think of the trauma your death will have on the person who will find your body dangling on a noose or the gun you used to blast a hole in your head.
The person could be your wife, child, parents, girlfriend or friend. Do you know that you would have ended up scarring the person for the rest of his or her life?
Even if you jumped into a lagoon and drowned, the person or people that discover your bloated and decomposing body will never be the same again even if he or she does not know you.
It will be the last thing they see before they go to bed and the first image they see upon waking up. The sight will flash into their minds at random moments and leave them completely traumatized.
Please do have a heart and spare the person the pain, anguish, agony and misery.
2. When the police arrive, they will treat your wife as a suspect. Your death will be deemed as ‘suspicious’ and the poor woman will-will hounded by all, including your family members who will see her as the witch who pushed you into killing yourself.
People will crane their necks to see what is going on inside your house. Your private decision will become the subject of public speculation. The room where you died will never be able to be used again.
There will be stains on the chair, on the carpet, on the walls. Most likely, your family will have to move.
3. Your private life will be scrutinized by people who would naturally be able to do. Your children, wife, girlfriend, friends and parents would be looked 'one kind' and everyone will think they did not handle your problems well and no one will know whether you told them or not.
Your wife will not be able to eat for days while she will also blame herself for not doing enough to help you when you were going through the difficult patch.
4. There will be an autopsy to determine how you died. There will be questions about your relationship, your job, your finances, your health and your drug and alcohol consumption.
If you’ve managed to destroy your body in your final act, your family will have to formally identify you. She will no longer remember you as alive and breathing, she will only remember you lying still, battered and violated on the cold slab of a mortuary.
And all the time, the voice in her head will scream 'why?' and mind you, the voice will never stop for as long as she lives. She will take your blame and think she led you to your death. Is that what you want for her? That voice never stops.
5. Your friends will see you as a failure who could not wait for things to take a turn for the better. Even people in your community will see you as a sell-out and a man who took the easy way out.
They will mock you, hate you, disrespect your decision, call you names and some will even ask what answer you will give to your make when you are asked why you took your life in the world beyond.
And come to think of it, what will your answer be?
If you were indebted when you were alive, do you know that the creditors will not allow their money to go with you? They will wait for, say two weeks, and start hounding your wife and family to pay back?
Even your landlord will throw out your family because he would not want his house to be given a bad name. He would not want people to think the spirits of his ancestors haunted his tenant and pushed him to commit suicide.
6. Some people will attribute your actions to spiritual remote control (you know how Nigerians attribute everything to the spiritual) and your pastor will look like a failure and members could start leaving his church thinking he was not able to give you the spiritual fortification you need to carry on in tough times.
7. Your friends and family will find it difficult to believe that you did this without provocation. They will search for someone to blame. And that person will be your wife or girlfriend if you were not married.
They will whisper that she drove you to it. They will find it hard to be around her. She will have to survive this thing on her own and if you had children, things will become more difficult for her as your family will not want to associate with children of a man who committed suicide.
8. If you have mental issues, depression, have feelings of despair and see suicide as a way out and a soft landing, please think twice.
Get help, talk to people, confide in your friends, family members, see a doctor, a pastor, Imam, psychiatric. Don't suffer alone and think you can handle your problems alone. Remember a problem shared is half solved.
9. If your suicide is reported in the media, journalists and bloggers will feed on you to sell their papers and bring traffic to their sites.
Those who do not know you will conjure up different angles, taking a trip into your minds and write tall tales on why you decided to kill yourself. You will be laid bare and you will be the sensation for weeks before they move on to other things.
Your family will become the center of attention as many people will pry into your affairs, they will want to know the way you lived your life leading up tp your death. Those who did not know you will suddenly become experts on your life.
Is that what you want?
10. When you take your life, you take the life of your wife, your kids, your parents, your siblings and your friends. There is no choice for them. They have to live with this burden for the rest of their lives.
No matter what you have done, no matter who you are, no one will be better off without you.
Above all, know that tough times do not last but only tough people do. Realize that you are not alone. Get in touch with the Nigeria Suicide Prevention Initiative (NSPI) on 0806 210 6493 and 0809 210 6493.