'My pastor wife is sleeping with her assistant'

I actually met her when I was referred to her for counselling when my business was going down the drain.

After the counselling session, I started going to the church as my business began picking up. I was so dedicated to the things of God that she encouraged me to go to a Bible school after which I was ordained a pastor.

Our closeness continued and before we knew it, we began courting and since she was single after divorcing from her former husband, we got married. I was made the Senior Pastor in the church and things were very rosy for many years and we had four lovely children.

But I had always known my wife to be a very heady person who always wanted things done her way and with money coming in due to the expansion of the church, my wife became impossible. She would not listen to me and always wanted things done her way.

Then she employed a young pastor whom she called her Special Assistant, but little did I know that he was not only an assistant on church matters, but also on bed matters.

I got to realise that they had more than a working relationship when my wife's secretary hinted me in secret that the assistant and the GO were actually and that anytime they went on pastoral assignments outside the state, they lodged in the same room in hotels, booking in as husband and wife.

I started monitoring them and when my wife told me she was going to Benin for evangelism with the assistant, I decided to surprise her. I followed them discretely and when they got to Benin, they booked into a hotel as man and wife.

To be very sure, I also lodged in the hotel and at night, I went to knock on their door pretending to be the waiter. When my wife opened the door, lo and behold, she was in her night gown while the so called assistant was on the bed in his boxer short. It was evident that they were in the middle of a sex session when I knocked.

I left Benin that night and came back to Lagos very sure my wife would be apologetic when she came back but when she did, she threatened to kill me if I ever tell anyone about what I saw or if I every try to walk out of the marriage.

I had to come out with this so that people will advice me on what to do.

Pastor Robert,

Lagos."

Dear readers, on Morning Teaser today, we ask: what advice do you have for Pastor Robert after going through his dilemma?