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Morning Teaser 'My parents have forbidden me from marrying a man I love because of tribe'

Is there anything wrong in getting married to someone from another tribe and with a different religion?

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A confused woman needs advice (Illustration)

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"Dear Pulse,

My name is Hadiza an I am a Fulani lady from Katsina State. I used to think my father is a detribalised Nigerian due to his exposure and education level but I now know otherwise.

I graduated from the University of Abuja and served in Enugu State where I met and fell in love with Chike, a young and brilliant engineer.

Though he was not my first boyfriend, I loved Chike with all my heart and I know he loves me too. He took me to his parents and though they were skeptical at the initial stage, they have come to accept and love me.

I have also accepted them and I can even cook some Igbo foods and have intensified efforts in learning the language to make my stay with my future in-laws easy.

I did all these because I never expected any opposition from my parents, especially my father who has worked and lived in different parts of the country and has had interactions with them.

When I took Chike to meet my parents, Alhaji told me in clear terms that I can never get married to him as is neither a Fulani (Hausa) man nor a Muslim. I was shocked and tried to let him know that it was my life and happiness he should be concerned about but he is being so unreasonable.

Just last week, he told me he has concluded arrangements for me to be married to the son of his friend and business partner in two months' time, and has vowed to make life difficult for Chike if he does not leave me alone.

But what would my life be without the man I love? Some friends have advised that I get pregnant and elope with Chike and I am actually considering that action but knowing Alhaji, he will not rest until he tracks us down.

I need help fast.


Dear readers, on Morning Teaser today, we want you to advise Hadiza on what she should do in this very dicey situation.

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