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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say Buchi should divorce her husband to avoid adultery

50% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say Buchi should rather divorce her husband instead of sleeping with other men.

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This worried woman needs advice (Illustration) play

This worried woman needs advice (Illustration)


Buchi thought she had met the love of her life when she agreed to marry Dominic who lives in Asia.

He had promised to take her to his base once they got married but since he left a month after their wedding, he has not come back for two years.

Buchi is seriously sex-starved and long for the warmth of her man but is afraid of what society will say.

Read her story here:

"My name is Buchi, a 28-year-old married. I must say that I am very unlucky in marriage as my husband who lives in Asia has been away for the past two years, leaving me all alone.

I met Dominic through his sister who is my good friend. Mary had told me that her brother who had been out of the country for many years needed a wife as their family had been on his neck to come home and get married.

They did not want him to get married to a foreigner and so, they were on the lookout for a wife for him, particularly an Igbo woman.

I had been friends with Mary since our university days and she felt I would be the right woman for her husband. I was not particularly interested in an arranged marriage, especially to a man I knew nothing about.

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But Mary kept assuring me that Dominic was a good man and would make a good husband for me. Aside from that, she also told me he would take me abroad as soon as we got married.

I told her that I would like to hear from Dominic himself and after she sent him my number, he started calling me and we would speak for hours. We also connected on the social media and would spend the whole night chatting and exchanging pictures.

Dominic changed my mind about dating someone I had never met before as he proved to be very caring. He would wake me up with his calls and text messages and before going to bed, he would call just to say good night.

Gradually, I began to fall in love with him and would wait breathlessly for his calls just to hear his voice.

Two years ago, he came to Nigeria and came to meet my parents. He wanted us to get married before going back and within two months, we got married and he left a month later.

And for two years now, the man I got married to has made no attempt to come back. His calls have been infrequent, neither does he send me money like he used to do.

It could take six months before Dominic would send me money and whenever I call, he would be evasive, telling me he would call and would go for weeks without calling.

As if that is not enough, he has left me sex-starved and needing attention like every woman. When I tell Dominic that I am horny, he would tell me to endure it just like he is doing but I know he has been sleeping with women wherever he is.

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There is this guy in my office who has been asking me out and with the way things are and the way I am sexually starved, I am tempted to give this guy a chance, at least to have someone to satisfy my sexual urge.

I have tried some sex toys but nothing can be as satisfying as having the feel of a real man inside of a woman.

I know many people out there will say sex is not food but I am still a young woman and I have sexual urges too. I am married but it seems I am not.

I need help fast.


The teaser for the day was:

Would you advise Buchi to get herself a sex partner?

How Nigeria voted:

Yes, as long as she does not develop feelings for him - 8%

No, she should wait for her husband no matter how long - 21%

Sex is not food, so Buchi should turn her energy into something else - 22%

Buchi should divorce Dominic rather than sleep around - 50%

How would your vote swing here?

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