'How do I get out of this abusive marriage?'

isaac dachen

August 4, 2017 10:14 AM

Chiamaka is an orphaned who thought her husband will take the place of her parents and provide her with the love she needs. But the reverse is the case.

A crying woman

I got married to Udoka out of necessity as I had lost my parents very early in life and life was so difficult for me and my younger sister as our uncles had stripped us of all our parents had.

By the time I was 15, I had been passed around as a maid in over three households with my uncles collecting the money my employers paid and refused to give me anything. I was just lucky to get some education after one of my mistresses sent me to school.

But I could not go beyond JSS 3 and dropped out to learn a trade. Even that was very difficult as I did not have the money to buy materials I needed but I trudged on, believing that God would make a way for me.

ALSO READ: "Morning Teaser: 'My husband beats me every day; but I can't leave him'"

It was during my apprenticeship that I met Udoka who was doing business in Lagos and came home to look for a wife. His aunt who owned the fashion house I was learning the trade was the one who introduced me to him and said he was a good man who would take of me.

We did not date for long as we got married barely three months later and at the initial stage, Udoka proved to be a saviour as he not only set up a small business for me but also allowed my younger sister to come and live with us and promised to send her to school.

But after three years, Udoka changed and turned me into his punching bag and his foot mat. He would beat me up over any slight issue that couples should settle amicably.

He has humiliated me in every possible way and has even transferred the hatred to my sister. Apart from beating me, Udoka would throw my things out and tell me to leave his house. I have endured all of these because he knows I have nowhere to go.

ALSO READ: "Morning Teaser: 'My husband beats me naked in front of our neighbours'"

I live in fear every day, praying he does not kill me. I dread to think what will happen to me and my children if Udoka should carry out his recent threats of sending me packing. Someone should come to my aid, please.

Chiamaka."

Dear readers, this story from Chiamaka is one of the most pathetic we have seen in a long while. On Morning Teaser today, what do you think she should do to save herself?

isaac dachen