Discerning those who abuse others

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April 20, 2016 6:59 AM

“But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.”

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Memory Verse: 2 Samuel 13:14 – “But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.”

The Word for Today devotional by United Christian Broadcasters (UCB) says

One of the things that make many women particularly vulnerable to different kinds of abuse and manipulation is their God-given maternal instinct.

Women are nurturers, reaching out to needy people to nurture, love, and provide them with inner strength.

For example, mothers love to take care of helpless babies. But all too often these healthy desires are taken advantage of by those who want to fulfil their own lusts.

Sometimes it seems that the more helpless a man acts, the more maternal some women become. And wicked men capitalise on this in order to have their way with them. That is why the gift of discernment, ‘the ability to discern’ (1 Corinthians 12:10 NLT), is so important. There are many wonderful men out there.

But be warned, there are also men who are cut from the same bolt of cloth as David’s son Amnon. Second Samuel chapter thirteen gives us a tragic example of this principle when Amnon took advantage of his stepsister Tamar. Amnon was dangerous, and there are others just like him.

Violence in relationships and marriages is growing at an alarming rate. The abuse includes physical assault, rape, molestation, psychological threats, stalking, and financial coercion. At the heart of abuse lies a desire to gain and maintain control over another person.

It is particularly important never to allow loneliness or a nurturing instinct to coerce you into a position of vulnerability with another. If you find yourself in that kind of situation, ‘blow the whistle’ immediately, expose the offender, and seek help.

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