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This is an exclusive Pulse blog by Medical doctor, Dami Daniels. "...Lack of lubrication is the leading cause of painful sex so you should make time for foreplay and not see penetrative sex as the goal..."

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I spoke to a number of people and to my  dismay I realised that many believe it is normal for sex to be painful.  
This is absolutely untrue as sex is designed to be pleasurable for both partners. It might be uncomfortable and painful the first few times but should not be beyond that. There is both a physical and psychological component to sex and problems in either might cause  pain during sex.

Sex is likely to be uncomfortable if you're not relaxed and aroused. Sometimes emotional issues and anxiety might also be contributing factors. Lack of lubrication is the leading cause of painful sex so you should make time for foreplay and not see penetrative sex as the goal. You should enjoy the journey as well as the destination. 
For menopausal women,lubricating products can be used.

It's important to note though that painful sex might be a pointer to something wrong and you should not hesitate to see your doctor should it persist.
In women some of the possible causes include; 
-Infections which could range from a thrush(fungal infection) to a sexually transmitted infection like gonorrhoea, herpes. 
-Irritation from certain soaps, latex condoms etc.
-Pelvic inflammatory disease
-Having sex too soon after childbirth or surgery(anything after 2weeks is considered okay)
-Vaginismus-involuntary tightening of vaginal muscles (may be caused by fear)
-Fibroids growing near the vagina
-Cervical cancer

In men, even though it's less common,  it does exist and some possible causes include;
-Foreskin being too tight (phimosis)
-Trauma from over vigorous sex
-Deformities of the penis.

What to do?
1) Relax and enjoy. As simple as it sounds, this is the only thing some people need. 
2 ) Associated itching and discharge from the genital area might be a pointer to an infection. This warrants a visit to a Dr as poorly treated infections are a risk for another set of complications entirely. 
3) Note products that you might be allergic to and stop using them or find alternatives. 
4) Speak to your Doctor.

Your welfare is our concern and no complaint is regarded as too inconsequential or weird.


Dami Daniel is a Medical Doctor who considers herself a health missionary-educating people on health issues far and wide. Spunky & witty, there's always something up her sleeves including dodo, if she can help it. Twitter: @drdamidaniel

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