16 habits of extremely boring people

Absolutely everyone has the capacity to be interesting .

But it comes more naturally to some people than to others. If you're worried about becoming a human soporific, we're here to help.

Below, we've listed 16 classic traits of boring people, culled from a Quora thread titled, " What makes a person boring? "

Read on for the social behaviors to avoid at all costs and you'll be on your way to life-of-the-party status.

Mike Nudelman and Drake Baer contributed to earlier versions of this article.

Boring people have unbalanced conversations

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Instead of finding a rhythm between talking and listening, boring people are on either conversational extreme.

Quora user Jack Bennett calls it an "asymmetry in the conversational 'give and take' e.g. all listening and no talking, or all talking and no listening."

Boring people cant tell if others are engaged in the conversation

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If you're emphatically boring, you're probably missing the other person's body language.

Garrick Saito argues that what makes a person boring is the "continual blathering and ignoring of signals and body language that say (perhaps not loudly enough) 'I'm not interested in what you're saying, but am nodding every few seconds only to be polite.'"

Lucky you we've rounded up a bunch of tricks for reading nonverbal cues .

Boring people cant make others laugh

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Humor shows "cognitive flexibility" : the ability to assess an idea or an event from a variety of perspectives, and then, naturally, make light of it. Boring people lack it.

"I'm an easy sell," admits Will Wister . "I mean come on let's face it it's not that hard."

Bonus: If you can make people laugh, you'll probably have an easier time picking up a date .

Boring people never have anything to say in conversations

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A "boor" is somebody who's loud and insensitive to the social situation, but a boring person can also be overly circumspect.

Alexa Knowles writes : "Where the loud bore believes they are the most interesting person there is, the quiet bore believes it's best to never say anything because who would want to listen to them? These are the ones that reply to every inquiry with some variant of 'I dunno, sort of, I guess.'"

Boring people always do the same thing

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Andy Warwick, who has since deleted his profile, complains of friends who go to the pub every weekend and then subsequently get frustrated when he can't make it out to join them since he was going to museums, reading books, or hiking around hills.

"For me what makes a person boring is living a sedentary life without variety," Warwick says. "Diverse experiences improve one's conversation for those weekends when you do go down the pub. You actually have something to talk about."

You'll probably feelbetter about yourself, too, since novelty and challenge tend to make people happier .

Boring people dont have their own opinions

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If you haven't thought critically about the world around you, you're not going to have much to offer in conversation.

"People that do not see past what they were taught to believe" are the boring ones, says Maranda Marvin . "These people can only offer their very localized view on a variety of topics."

Boring people dont know how to tell a good story

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"To interest someone and to truly engage others, you have to be able to tell a story," says Dave Cheng . "And you have to care about that story."

In fact, a 2016 study from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and SUNY Buffalo found that men who can tell a good story are more attractive to women .

What's more, Cheng says, "You also have to solicit stories out of others. And you have to care about those stories."

Boring people dont have anything new to add

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Research reveals that we're basically hard-wired to seek novelty. It's a need that's been rattling around evolution for some 800,000 years . The conversational takeaway: If you don't provide anything new to the listener, they're not going to be stimulated.

"To me, a boring person is someone from whom I cannot learn anything new," says Stan Hayward in an earlier version of his answer. "Thus, it takes time for me to decide someone is really a boring person, though some people give out cues pretty early in a relationship."

Boring people cant see things from other peoples perspectives

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"Boring people are usually those who can't (or won't) understand how the conversation is experienced from the other person's perspective," says Drew Austin . "The ability to place oneself in another person's shoes makes someone interesting to talk to."

That's why emotional intelligence is key to conversationality.

Boring people dont include anybody in the conversation

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What makes someone boring is "the inability to include the others with interest into the conversation," says Marie Holland , "which I feel usually happens when the 'boring' person just wants their point to be told with too much detail that isn't relevant."

This goes along with empathy: If you can't figure out that someone in the circle of conversation is feeling left out, you're boring.

Boring people have poor improv skills

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Ifyou've got a prepared script for every casual conversation and can't deviate from it, you've got a problem.

Erick Diaz writes :

"There have been plenty of times in my life when someone has gone on a tangent about something I know nothing about. In order to keep the conversation afloat I'd think of any anecdote that was even remotely related.

"Good conversationalists don't have to say the right thing, they just have to say something the other person can feed off of. Conversations are like a game of catch and if you don't throw that ball back, game over."

Boring people are constantly negative

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Dylan Woon thinks people who are "full of negativity" are the most boring.

He breaks down the Negative Nancies into three categories:

Victim mentality: "I'm trapped! [Why]am I so unlucky? Why me? Why?"

Scarcity mentally: "People have snatched that opportunity away from me! Oh no!"

Blaming mentality: "It's all because of the government! Because of the President! Because you [are] the competitor! Because of him! It's all their faults!"

Boring people repeat themselves

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Have you heard the one about the super-boring conversationalist? He told the same story over and over again! But hey, how about that one about the super-boring conversationalist?

Fatima Nadeem says "the repetition of [the] same things again and again while talking makes a person extremely boring."

Try reading the news or mentally reviewingthe past few hours for some new material.

Boring people are fixated on what other people think

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Marin Brezina documents a curious quandary.

"Many people simply act according to what they think other people think of them," she writes. "And what often happens is that what they think others think of them is completely false, but they think about it so much that they lose their own identity."

The result? They're boring.

If you're struggling to stop panicking about how others perceive you, try one of these tricks , like making other people feel comfortable instead.

Boring people try to prove how smart they are

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Sure, acting like you're the smartest person in the room can make others listen to you . It can also backfire and make you seem boring.

"Boring people always talk about the subject that you don't know," writes Erbay Kl , so they can prove how brainy they are. Better to stick with topics that the other person is interested in .

Boring people are always bored

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Boredom is a two-way street. Nela Canovic says she's bored by "people who have a habit of saying they are always bored."

In other words: Most people willfeed off your excitement, so show some.

16 habits of extremely boring people

Boring people have unbalanced conversations

Boring people cant tell if others are engaged in the conversation

Boring people cant make others laugh

Boring people never have anything to say in conversations

Boring people always do the same thing

Boring people dont have their own opinions

Boring people dont know how to tell a good story

Boring people dont have anything new to add

Boring people cant see things from other peoples perspectives

Boring people dont include anybody in the conversation

Boring people have poor improv skills

Boring people are constantly negative

Boring people repeat themselves

Boring people are fixated on what other people think

Boring people try to prove how smart they are

Boring people are always bored

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