As the groom, if you think your task are limited to finances alone then you are wrong. You should get involved too.
As the groom, if you think your task are limited to finances alone then you are wrong. You should get involved too, from traditional responsibilities to sharing the load and taking some responsibilities in whichever way you can. It all depends how much energy you're willing to put in, and how much of a control freak you're marrying!
So here is a list of tasks you can do to help the one you love.
This one's imperative and it literally can't wait. Pretty much everything flows from here. Work out how best to spend your money and whether you can afford the cost of an extravagant wedding.
Convention dictates that your brother (if you have one) trumps your best friend in this decision, but ultimately it's your call. And the sooner you make your decision, the sooner you can start to delegate.
Keep up to date with the wedding planning with your own or a shared wedding planning calendar. Coordinate appointment times, go-sees, tastings and the like, and have access to the wedding guest spreadsheet with guest details so you can help in managing RSVPs and gifts you've received as well as keep a note of the thank you notes that need to be sent.
You're in charge of booking the wedding cars for the day as well as arranging transport for the mother/father of the groom, the bride and the wedding party to and from all venues throughout the day. From home to the ceremony location, onward to photographs, to the reception and then home again. If your wedding is in a regional, country or far flung location where taxi transport will be tough, arrange bus transport for your guests to get home at the end of the night.
That may sound simple but allow plenty of time in case you need to have something tailor made or altered and remember to consult with your beloved bride as her look and yours should obviously coordinate. Once you have your look under control, turn your hand to your groomsmen and if they're not all living in the same city - get cracking!
Find jobs for those who aren't actually part of the wedding party such as your fiancee's brothers, cousins, your family members by delegating roles such as ushering or driving significant family members to and from the day's events
This is an important role on the night so if you are asking a friend or family member you should make this decision together. Find out more about choosing a good MC.
Now for the fun part. Although most couples make this decision together there's certainly something romantic about planning the trip of a lifetime for your busy bride, torturing her with the suspense and then delighting in her reaction when you're well on the way the next day.
Volunteer to call and confirm and pay deposits for all vendors and services during the month leading up to the wedding. Remember that electronic calendar from above - this is where it'll come in handy
These days, couples are opting for originality when it comes to exchanging vows and writing their own wedding vows. We love the idea of not sharing the vows until the wedding day and surprising your each other with your well thought our words and promises for the future.
Pen your speech well ahead of time rather than on a napkin the morning of the wedding - and remember to thank your new parents-in-law, your beautiful bride, your parents, your best man, your groomsmen and everyone who came to your wedding.
Sure this one sounds simple, but something thoughtful, romantic and with longevity is best. But that's where our help ends. It's up to you to go and work out what that might be....
Have a letter delivered to your bride on the wedding day with a message of love, include a photo of when you first met and reassure her. Tell her to forget about the weather or the fact the ribbon didn't match the bridesmaids fabric and to let the day unfold, and enjoy it.
Buy thank you gifts for your groomsmen which you can present at the ceremony rehearsal or on the morning of the wedding, pre-ceremony.
Arrange to have cash on hand (in labelled envelopes) to give to the best man to pay the celebrant and anyone else who requires payment on the day.
Organize someone responsible - perhaps an uncle or family friend to be in charge of transporting gifts at the end of the night and delivering them somewhere safe the next day, whether that's your place or someone else's if you're heading off on honeymoon right away.