For Brides 5 ways to get help with planning your wedding

Since you know that you'll definitely need help with organizing your big day, how do you go about seeking assistance from family and friends? Style and Trend Expert, Amber Harrison, narrows it down to these five easy steps explained below

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A bride with her bridesmaids

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Getting engaged is the first step to a long journey of planning your wedding, and also your marital life.

By now of course, you already know that wedding planning isn't something you should do alone because it comes with its own fair share of stress and tension.

Since you know that you'll definitely need help with organizing your big day, how do you go about seeking assistance from family and friends? Style and Trend Expert, Amber Harrison, narrows it down to these five easy steps explained below:

  1. Be honest: The best way to ask for help is to have an open and honest one-on-one conversation. Don't wait for your bridesmaids or family to come to you and volunteer -- they're often afraid of stepping on others' toes or getting in the way. Genuinely let your bridesmaids or family members know you're overwhelmed and that you'd appreciate a little assistance with a few tasks.

  2. Be organized: Create the ultimate to-do list of every single wedding-related task you can think of, and note what you can assign to others. Remember, no task is too small! Store this and all other important (but not sensitive) information such as vendor information, song lists, etc. on Google Drive to easily collaborate and share with others.

  3. Communicate clearly: Try to be very specific with the tasks and timelines you're delegating, and make sure everybody is comfortable with all aspects from the start. It's still your day, so outline clearly what you want and when you need it. You can recruit help for things like wedding favours, vendor communication, invitation assembly, DIY elements and more, but you will need to provide clear direction to get things done the way you had envisioned them and in a timely fashion.

  4. Give them an out: On the other hand, sometimes your friends and family have personal responsibilities that may keep them from giving your wedding the attention it deserves. Make them feel comfortable to say 'no' by assuring them you won't be offended and showing complete understanding. Stay away from group email chains or texts where someone might feel obligated to say yes. That doesn't usually end well.

  5. Say 'thank you': A small token of appreciation really goes a long way. Your family and friends have taken time out of their personal schedules to help make your big day as perfect as can be, so be sure to acknowledge their efforts with a small, personalized gift. It doesn't have to be expensive. Share monogrammed items or sweets with a thoughtful note expressing your gratitude.

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