Tips for dealing with awkward wedding questions

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March 27, 2015 11:31 AM

The moment your relationship status changes from dating to engaged, you'll receive a flood of well wishes from all angles, but how do you deal with the awkward or not-so nice questions that will follow?

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One of the easiest questions you may have to answer in your life is when you say 'yes' to your fiancé when he proposes to you, but the ones that follow from family, friends and even strangers, might not be that fun.

According to etiquette expert, Louise Fox, the number one rule is not answer. "People will ask anything these days, there are no boundaries," Fox says.

"Technology has played into that – everything is all out there and you know everything about everybody and you know everything about every celebrity and you think you have the right to know."

Here are a few suggestions on how to handle uncomfortable topics after getting engaged:

How much your ring and wedding costs..."The rule of thumb is don't answer any questions that you're uncomfortable with, nosy and inquisitive questions are nobody's business but yours," says Fox.

Are you getting a pre-nup?"Sometimes you just need a direct approach and say 'I'm uncomfortable' or sometimes if it is someone you don't know very well, ask them if they're a lawyer. They'll likely say no, and you change the subject."

When are you having kids?"Sometimes it's just best to say it's complicated... When you're talking and you've got the floor it's easier to change the topic."

On wedding planning and guests lists ..."Consideration, compromise and courtesy are the good three C's to use when you're in a wedding situation," Fox says. "We tend to feel like we have to answer, [sic] you don't." She changes subjects here. "You don't have to give an excuse and you don't have to give a reason if you don't feel comfortable answering a question."

Final tip - don't over-share: While it's tempting to take a million ring selfies and list the details of your relationship, take a step back. "Sometimes, there is just too much sharing... Of course it does open people up because you seem to want to share and it's tempting to want to go there," Fox says. "Be realistic."

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