Etiquette How to be an ideal wedding guest

Some guests don't even know what roles they are expected to play at the event - they just eat, drink and go home. Don't let your name be mentioned amongst such people, rather, do the following things to be an ideal wedding guest

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The bride and groom are usually the stars at their own wedding, but sometimes, an ill-mannered guest may want to take the shine off.

Some guests don't even know what roles they are expected to play at the event - they just eat, drink and go home.

Don't let your name be mentioned amongst such people, rather, do the following things to be an ideal wedding guest:

  • Your attire: In case you don't already know, ladies should NOT wear white to a wedding. Also, colours like ivory, champagne, off-white, and even blush (pale pink), considering the colour palette of wedding gowns these days, are off limits. Be sure to also dress appropriately for the occasion, and consider the time and season as well. For example, a sundress is ideal for an afternoon wedding on a sunny day. Generally, anything after 7 or 8 p.m. is considered black tie. If you're not sure about the dress code, ask a bridesmaid or family member of the bride.

  • Respond to the RSVP: Regardless of what you may think, RSVPs are very important, especially to the bride. Immediately you receive a formal invitation, respond yes or no––either way! Nobody will be offended if you can't attend. Couples need to give vendors head counts, and it is also very rude not to respond. If you are yet to make up your mind, let the couple know that you might be busy that weekend, but that you'll confirm with them no less than a month before the wedding, and make sure you follow through.

  • Gift packaging: You don't have to spend so much money on a gift for the couple. If they've invited you, it is because they want you to share this special occasion, not because they want to accrue more stuff. Some couples provide plenty of gift ideas at many different price points on their registry. Another pro tip is to mail your gift. Many stores provide that service for free or a nominal charge, and the truth is, no couple wants to lug around a bunch of gifts after a tiring day

  • Inviting children: While this could be categorized under 'Guests,'  children actually need their own listing. Don't assume that all your children are welcome at a wedding ceremony or reception. Most couples are now opting got adult-only weddings. Even if they aren't, eliminating children is a fast and simple way for couples to trim their guest lists. If the invitation isn't addressed to you and your family, confirm with a bridesmaid or close family member of the bride just to be sure.

  • Bringing another guest along: Don't ever assume you have a plus one unless the invitation specifically indicates 'and guest' or the bride/groom have told you that you can bring your significant other. Usually, a plus one should not be expected unless you've been with your boyfriend or girlfriend for a long period of time, you're engaged/married, or live together. Don't forget that each extra guest costs the bride and groom extra––and remember, the singles' table can be fun too.

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