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Trust must be earned

The Word for Today devotional by United Christian Broadcasters (UCB) says:  

'Don't Look Back'

Here is a magic bullet that teenagers like to use in order to manipulate their parents: ‘You don’t trust me!’ Therefore, we start backpedalling.

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‘No, dear, it’s not that I don’t trust you being out with your friends or taking the car, it’s just that I…’ and then we run out of words. We are on the defensive, and the discussion is over.

Truth is that we can trust our children at some things, but not others. It is not an all-or-nothing proposition.

For example, many of us are authorised to spend our company’s money from certain accounts. Nevertheless, they do not give us the completely corporate chequebook!

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So let us stop being suckered by our kids, and boldly state that trust comes in stages - some of it now, and more later on. Humorist and author Mark Twain joked, ‘When a child turns twelve you should put him in a barrel, nail a lid down and feed him through a knothole.

When he turns sixteen, you should seal up the knothole.’ Seriously, there are times when every parent feels this way. However, at some point you have to let out the line and begin to trust them.

In addition, here are two important things about trust: First, it must be age-appropriate. You should risk only what you can reasonably expect to be handled safely. Second, trust must be earned.

Erma Bombeck once quipped that she was not going to pay $2000 to straighten the teeth of a kid who never smiled. What is going on inside your youngster explains much of what you see on the outside.

Better days are coming!

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