"My girlfriend's bad behaviour has pushed me to another woman, what should I do?"

Hello Bukky,

Please I need your advice. I have a girlfriend who I love and wish to marry someday, but the problem is that she doesn’t have good character and she doesn’t show me much love that I deserve from her.

We have been dating but we haven’t had sex yet, but I am not concerned about that because she is a virgin.

I just met another girl recently who has good character and is more beautiful than she.

I have wooed her and also told her the truth that I have a girlfriend. She understands everything and we are dating now.

[I have to say] she is winning my heart against my girlfriend, as my girlfriend’s attitude keeps getting me angry.

I am falling in love more with the new girl more because of her character.

Please advise me.

James Alex

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Dear James Alex,

Thanks for reaching out.

I really can’t help but notice that you are really particular about how your partner behaves, which is absolutely understandable.

Since it appears that your girlfriend does not satisfy this criterion, I strongly advise that you call her and have a heart-to-heart conversation with her.

You have to be as honest and firm as possible when having that conversation.

You should tell her how much you want her to be with you for a long time, and how that might be impossible if she keeps up with the behaviour that’s got you this fed up of her.

As regards the other relationship, I will not mince words in telling you how wrong that is.

I understand how tired you must be of the situation with your girlfriend, but as it was written in a recent article on this website, cheating has no excuse, and what you are doing with that other lady has no other name but cheating; therefore, unjustifiable.

Please, desist from the her, no matter how refreshing her presence is to your soul.

You need to be a man here and do the right thing – talk to your real girlfriend. Give her reasonable time to change.

If after that she refuses to change, then you might take any other course of action that seems right to you.

Hopefully, she listens, though.

I would hate to see your relationship end.

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