"My girlfriend cooks for another guy; I'm uncomfortable about it"

Dear Bukky,

I'm sending this from Kaduna.

My girlfriend always cooks food and gives her male friend (neighbour).

l've asked her to stop but she refuses, saying there's nothing wrong with that.

I’m not comfortable with such gesture, what can l do please?________________

Hi reader,

Let’s look at this from this angle; is she cooking the food specifically for him, or is she only sharing some of her food with him?

As much as you want to be sure that your partner keeps her distance from potentially difficult situations, you also need to know that you can’t stop her from being nice to people if that is her personality.

To judge if your discomfort is logical or unwarranted, ask yourself; apart from this food sharing, has there been other things to suggest that there might be foul play?

If not, you might probably need to chill out a bit. You can’t ask your girl to stop being herself just because of you.

If, on the other hand, there are signs that those activities will put your relationship into question, the choice will be to ask her what her real priorities are.

Discuss with her and explain reasons why don't think it's cool for her to continue doing so. Tell her it makes you feel uneasy whenever she does that.

Her reaction/response might provide insight into whether she'd she like to grow what she has with you, or begin another one with the guy.

In the end, it is all about balance.

Try not to hold on to your girl too tightly, and at the same time, keep your eyes peeled so as to know when to let her go if that seems more like what she wants._________________

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