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"I love her so much, but our relationship feels so wrong"

She deliberately does a lot of things to hurt me and when I ask why she is doing all these, she just flares up in my face.

Relationship Talk

Dear Bukky,

Please I need your advice. I’m a guy of thirty and I’m dating a girl.

Before we started, I've asked her if she is already in a relationship with someone else, she denied. But I later find out that she is dating someone else.

I swear by all I cherish in life that I really love this girl. But she seems to be playing games with my emotions. I've called and told her to choose who she wants to be with and when she refused, I told her to let me be but she wanted to stick with me while she is also not ready to let go of the guy.

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She deliberately does a lot of things to hurt me and when I ask why she is doing all these, she will just flare in my face.

Although I’m not totally blameless in the sense that I sometimes shout at her when she relentlessly frustrates me.

She deliberately ignored my birthday today and when I ask she said she had forgotten. Sometimes I will be talking to her on phone but she will just hang up on me without any reason.

And I’m trying as much as I can for her despite the fact that what she is earning is far higher than what I earn. I feel sad and depressed. Please help a brother._____________

Hi Reader,

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Please for the sake of your well-being and sanity, let this relationship go.

The negative energy being exchanged between you both seems just too much. I do not think a relationship should be something wherein partners keep scores of wrongdoings, or one where one partner is making efforts to make things work and the other is doing everything to sabotage him.

If you ever feel this way, and I have a feeling you do, then you need to let her go no matter what she says or does to hold you down.

I mean, why remain in the relationship when you know she has someone else that she won’t even discard for you?

As you say, she intentionally does hurtful things to you, she hangs up on you and gets angry when you complain about them.

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No, sir, this is not a healthy relationship and you need to break out of this constant cycle of negativity._________________

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