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The 10 best sex positions to stimulate your clit

“Research shows it’s clitoral stimulation, not vaginal stimulation, that is the powerhouse of the female orgasm,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First.

In other words, clit stimulation is a must when it comes to mind-blowing sex.

But given that your clitoral glans-that nub you can see on the outside, which contain the most nerve endings in the clit, 8,000 to be exact-can be anywhere from 2.5 to 4 centimeters away from your vaginal entrance, lots of sex positions won’t exactly do the trick, says Kerner. That’s why we rounded up a few expert-approved moves that will hit all the right spots. Happy experimenting!

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You already know pretzels taste good, but contorting your bodies into one can make for explosive pleasure. Deviate from the thrusting norm, and focus on friction for maximum results. “This position is about persistently connecting and grinding against each other,” says Kerner. That grinding action will help make your clit happy.

How to: Lie on your right side. Your partner kneels, straddling your right leg and curling your left leg around his left side. Have him enter you from here. This will provide deep penetration and easy clit access.

If it isn’t working: Not feeling enough pressure? Have your partner lean back. “If he leans forward, it’s easier to manually stimulate you," says Kerner. "But leaning back offers the best angle to press into each other."

This romantic position is only made sweeter with the addition of attention to your clitoris. You can give yourself a hand, or you can close the distance between your two bodies to go hands-free. “Rub yourself against him to get the stimulation you need,” says Kerner.

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How to: Your partner sits on a char or the edge of the bed. You face him, straddling his lap. From here, you can control the angle and depth of the entry and thrusts. Plus, this position provides extra support, which is helpful for long sex seshes (and pleasuring your clit.)

If it isn’t working: Have him support your weight, then lean back for more clitoral contact against his body. “Think of it as him dipping you during a dance," says Kerner. "With that support, you can get a good rhythm going."

Get more bang for your buck. While this position is a natural for G-spot stimulation, it can be a winner for your clitoris, too. “When he’s in a comfortable enough position, he can try to reach under you and provide clitoral stimulation,” says Kerner.

How to: This is a modified doggy-style. To do this variation, get on your hands and knees, then, keeping your hips raised, rest your head and arms on the bed. Have your partner enter you from behind, while holding your hips for extra thrusting support. He can rub your clit from this position, or you can take matters into your own hands.

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If it isn’t working: If the thrusting makes it hard for him to keep his hand on target, have him grind against you in circles instead. Less in-and-out motion can make for a more consistent connection.

It’s an oldie and a goodie for a reason. “This can be nice if he is able to focus less on thrusting and more on connecting,” says Kerner. If you need a stronger touch, feel free to grab his butt and pull him deeper inside of you so his pelvic area presses harder against your clitoris.

How to: Lie on your back while your partner lies facedown on top of you. Have him enter you here, pressing close together so his penis can rub up against your clit. From here, play around with the position a bit-shift the angle of your legs to change the sensation for both of you.

If it isn’t working: Have him scoot his entire body higher up horizontally. “If he rides a little higher, he won’t just be thrusting,” says Kerner. Instead, he’ll have to move his body down a bit each time he wants to get deeper, which means his pelvis and the shaft of his penis can massage your clitoris.

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This one’s especially good if you’ve got a long-armed guy (where’s Fantastic Four’s Mister Fantastic when you need him?), although it can also work with a dude who’s got average appendages. “It may be hard to stimulate yourself because you’re on both hands, but he can lean over and reach under to touch your clitoris,” says Kerner.

How to: Get on all fours. Your partner kneels behind you, with his upper body straight up or slightly draped over you. Again, this position allows for deep penetration and easy access to your clit. Either stimulate your own clit with one hand, while balancing on the other, or ask your partner to take total control.

If it isn’t working: Ask him to lean over even more so his hand can stay pressed up against your clitoris, or transition from thrusting into smoother grinding motions. That way, you may be able to support yourself enough to get the job done on your own.

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Feeling intimate? This position offers the best of both worlds: ultimate closeness to your partner and plenty of clitoral stimulation. “Once you’re both comfortably positioned, you can get into a great grinding rhythm against his leg,” says Kerner.

How to: From missionary position, without pulling out, turn together onto your sides, using your arms to support your upper bodies. From here, you get the same full-body press (good news for your clit). You can also try intertwining your legs here, for extra stimulation.

If it isn’t working: One of you can slip a hand down south to get the most out of this position. “Since you’re on your sides, you have enough support to easily provide some manual stimulation,” says Kerner.

Opening up is a good thing when you’re trying to get off. “When your vulva is very exposed, there’s a lot of clitoral and inner labial stimulation,” says Kerner. Go to town with your hands, and focus on the visual of him sliding in and out of you if you need some erotic fuel.

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How to: Lie back with your legs raised all the way up and your ankles crossed behind your own head. Have your partner enters you from a missionary position.

If it isn’t working: Do away with the hand action. Ask your partner to reposition his body a bit higher so his pelvis is right against your clitoris, says Kerner.

Does it look like the dirty version of a move you’d do in barre class? Yes. Does it provide awesome sensations for your nether regions? Absolutely. The key here is getting really close, then changing up the direction of your movements. Instead of regular thrusting, have your partner move your body up and down against his.

How to: Get into a partial bridge pose, with your weight resting on your shoulders. Your partner enters you from a kneeling position. You can adjust your height by lifting your hips higher, or going up on your tip-toes. You can also try throwing one leg up against his shoulder for deeper penetration.

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If it isn’t working: Stabilize yourself (you may have to come down from the balls of your feet unless your guy can support you with one hand), and have him touch your clitoris just the way you like. “If he has the strength for it, that could definitely work,” says Kerner.

The Om

If you need long-lasting clitoral stimulation, you can settle into this comfortable position and stay a while. Get extra-close, and grind against your partner, says Kerner: “It’s really about his pelvis and your clitoris making contact.”

How to: Your partner sits cross-legged, and you sit in his lap facing him. Wrap your legs around him and hug each other for support. Rather than thrusting, try rocking to really make the most of this position.

If it isn’t working: Switch up your movements, says Kerner. Try rubbing up and down against him or rolling your hips in mini circles until you find what feels best.

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This easy transition from missionary may not seem like a clitoris-pleaser, but a tweak makes it work. “Have him ride high and focus on pressing down on your body,” says Kerner. “It’s a great position for a lot of contact and grinding.”

How to: From missionary position, raise your legs and extend them straight out, forming a “V” shape. You can also try grabbing your ankles for stability, and an added stretch.

If it isn’t working: Instead of having him do all the work, slip your arms around his back, hold him close to you, and rub your body against his. The added pressure might be just what you need to reach the big O.

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