For Guys Why you shouldn’t be in a relationship until you can afford one

Why both men should learn to date within their financial means.

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You need money as much as you need emotional maturity and intelligence in a relationship and until you can afford these, you probably should not be in a relationship.

Transactional relationships

You must have heard people say there's no romance without finance, and that when you have no money, you have no honey… this is simply because deep down, most relationships are still transactional in nature.

That is to say, you still stand a very high chance of getting someone to love you when you are financially OK. If you are not, all your abundance of emotions and good traits may just be a waste.

Yes it’s crazy and of course, it’s sad. And although some social change is seemingly being orchestrated via social media discourse, it seems that it'll yet take a very long while to completely [or even significantly] overhaul a belief system that has existed for a long, long time in almost every culture and nationality you can think about, although in varying degrees.

Apart from the fact that relationships are largely transactional in these parts, another truth that every guy would need to wrap their heads around is that there is no relationship that’s free. They are not meant to bleed you dry or wreck your credit but you cannot do love in 2018 [or anytime in recent memory] without spending money.

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No relationship can't do without money

Love, even in its purest, truest and most genuine form is hinged on giving gifts and spending quality time on dates among other things. And there is no way you are going to do these without spending.

Whenever the operation of money in relationships and marriages is spoken of these days, a lot of attention is paid on women and how they need to chip in more regularly and spend money on men, too.

That conversation is largely triggered by the commonness of transactional relationships as mentioned above, and the need to bring down its occurrences.

However, taking away the transactional nature of relationships will still not excuse you, man, from spending on your woman. And you need to do so gladly, happily and freely without being asked to. Random gifts for her, especially if her love language is getting gifts; occasionally making a grand show of your love to her and basically just spoiling her.

This is why you should not be in a relationship when you have no source of income. Really, love is a quite difficult to prove when you’re very broke.

In this same vein, it should also be stated that dating within your financial bracket is a thing and every guy needs to acknowledge this. Date someone that won’t require you overstretch your financial muscle.

You also need to date someone who strives for financial freedom and pursues financial success of her own. Such women hardly feel entitled to your money and would relate to your money with an appreciation of your effort instead of a misplaced sense of entitlement.

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