Half the time, the couple-to-be do not enjoy their wedding per se due to many factors including and mostlypoor planning.
Half the time, the couple-to-be do not enjoy their wedding per se due to many factors.
Few couples actually enjoy this once in a life time event only because they had wedding planners put everything together but so should you.
Here are a few guidelines to enjoying your special day.
There are tops priorities when it comes to organising a wedding ceremony, such as:
1. That your guests are comfortable
2. That the wedding is a ton of fun (for everyone, including yourselves)
Make sure people know what to expect
Making sure your guests know what to expect is key in having a wedding that people enjoy.
If both the ceremony and reception are on grassy or rocky ground, let people know so that they can choose their footwear appropriately.
This is also true when it comes to temperature. So if you have a lot of guests coming from out of state, they’ll need to be informed ahead of time to bring a jacket.
Formality level comes into play here too. While you shouldn’t dictate exactly what your guests wear, very few people like showing up either extremely over- or under-dressed for an event, so giving a heads up on the general dress code is appreciated, whether that’s black tie or casual
It’s also nice for guests to know what you’re going to want them to do. Need help breaking down tables at the end of the night? Tell people ahead of time, they will be there.
The more you let them know in advance what your expectations are, whether that’s, “We really want you to just be guests and enjoy yourselves,” or “We’re going to have a ton of things we’ll need help with and would appreciate all hands on deck,” the more people are going to be in the right mood and mindset to both act and enjoy themselves accordingly.
Feed people. Feed them on time.
Never let your guests be hungry because hungry quickly turns into hangry, and well, it’s pretty hard to enjoy yourself when you’re hangry.
This doesnt mean you have to serve a full meal. You just need to serve one if you’ve set guests up to expect one.
So, if your reception is, say, from 2–5 p.m., most people will infer that there won’t be a meal served and will eat before and/or plan on eating after.
You can also hold a reception at another time and advertise that it’s not going to involve a full meal. “Please join us for appetizers and drinks from 5 p.m.–8 p.m.,” or “Dessert reception to follow,” or “Cake and punch after the ceremony,” or any other wording describing the fact that people should not expect to eat a meal.
What to do to make sure it’s fun
The fact is that everyone has a different definition of what fun is.
While a booze-and-drug-fueled, dance-till-the-sun-comes-up party defines it for some people, for others that’s some kind of nightmare and an intimate dinner party with board games sounds way more fun.
Not the giant dance party types? It’s highly unlikely that you’ve ended up with a group of friends who are, so please feel free to go ahead and skip the loud music. Totally the giant dance party types? Bring. It. On.
As with most things in life—knowing your crowd is key.
But what if you don’t have a particular group of friends, and your family runs the gamut, and you can barely think of two people coming to the wedding who like the same kinds of parties? Then…
Get people emotionally invested
People enjoy them the most when they’re emotionally invested in the reason they’re there, that two people they love are publicly joining their lives together.
Often this means a meaningful ceremony that puts the guests into an emotional group high.
The key is that a wedding reception isn’t just another party. It’s a party celebrating a very, very specific thing—your marriage.
This doesn’t mean you need a tiered cake, or a white dress, or a sit down dinner, it just means that the focus should be on your marriage. If you skip the public ceremony, toasts can help a lot with this.
It also has to do a lot with the attitude and emotions of the couple. It’s hard not to be on an emotional high when the people you’re there to see are on one.
Always remember that, you cannot please everyone. Once you have a group of more than about six people, someone is going to think that any given idea is probably not the best one.
What they do love, however, is you, and so even if they don’t go home saying, “That was, no question, one of the best parties I’ve ever been to,” hopefully they’ll go home saying, “I am so, so happy to have been able to be there to celebrate when this couple I love was married.”