“My girlfriend wants to quit our relationship because of her friend’s attitude”

oge okonkwo

April 22, 2016 3:16 PM

My girlfriend said her friend isn’t happy with our relationship because she thought we wouldn’t last

Hi Bukky,

My name is Tope. I need an advice on if I should proceed with my relationship or quit. I was introduced to my girlfriend by my friend’s girlfriend.

We like each other and have been dating for a year now but I recently discovered that my girlfriend and my friend’s girlfriend are fighting and have stopped talking to each other. They are both in the same set and department in school. The worst is that they had another fight in public and started shouting at each other which made me feel really bad.

I pleaded with my girlfriend to reconcile with her friend after the fight, I also asked why they keep quarrelling but she told me I would never understand. She later said her friend isn’t happy with our relationship because she thought we wouldn’t last. My girlfriend told me she’s no longer interested in our relationship because of her friend’s attitude. I told her we aren’t going to live in school forever but she refused to talk to me till I left her hostel that day.

I don’t know what to do, should I quit the relationship as my girlfriend suggested because I’ve even noticed my friend’s girlfriend has been acting up. My girlfriend has been really good to me and I’m even thinking of marrying her.

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Hello Tope,

Thank you for sharing your issues with me.

Letting other people determine your happiness can be very dangerous because you end up making the wrong move and ruin everything you’ve managed to achieve.

Do you really love your girlfriend? If you do, then her friend’s opinion about your relationship should have little or no meaning to you. You shouldn’t let her determine how your relationship should go even if she was the reason you met each other in the first place.

Have you asked your girlfriend if there were any agreement between herself and your friend’s girlfriend? It may be the cause of the quarrel they are currently having.

Quitting your relationship because someone isn’t happy about it doesn’t sound right unless you really want to. I’ll advise you have a heart-to-heart talk with your girlfriend and her friend together in a place in order to settle whatever issues you all have. Bring your friend along to the discussion if a third party is needed.

Convince your girlfriend you see a future in the relationship and will be willing to make things work out.

I wish you the best.

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oge okonkwo

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