Relationship Talk "I'm feeling sexually attracted to my friend, what should I do?"

I am not even sure I want to date him, I just want to get down with him. That’s all.

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Hello, Bukky.

I'm 23 years old and I'm female. This might not be the kind of messages you receive but I’d love to get your opinion on it all the same.

So I have this friend that I’ve been close to for about eight years now. We are so close that everyone expects us to date or something like that.

Even my mum thinks I must have slept with him a lot of times but I have not. Never gone down that road but I think that is just about to change.

I can't explain why, but I have been feeling some sexual tension whenever I am with him for like 4 months now.

The problem is that for eight years now, he has never made any move on me, which makes me feel he might not even be interested in any sexual activity with me.

It’s becoming very unbearable now, and every time I see him (once or twice every week) all I can think of is kissing him and more.

I am not even sure I want to date him, I just want to get down with him. That’s all.

I think I’m becoming obsessed and might do something crazy when next I see him.

If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
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What I would do if I were in your shoes would be to first understand why I am feeling that way all of a sudden.

You need to work out why the attraction suddenly sprung out of nowhere. Could it be because you actually love him?

Have you ever really considered that? It could be as a result of suppressed emotions over time.

If you have been so close to a guy for eight years, it is understandable if you start having feelings for him.

If you do think you might actually be in love with him, then I think you should tell him about it, and not just leap into trying to get him to have sex with you.

You might be setting yourself up for disappointment if he agrees to have sex with you and back it up with no emotional commitment.

Whether or not you are interested in a relationship with him though, I would be prepared for a rejection if I were you. Simply because that’s a genuine possibility here. I mean, there has to be a reason he has not even tried anything for eight years, right?

If you are sure you do not expect anything emotional from him, and you are certain you can handle the possible rejection, then by all means, you should shoot your shot.

That’s what I’d do.
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