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3 important boxes to tick before saying 'I do'

If you have no answers to the questions listed below, you're not ready.

Happiness in a marriage is impossible if you do not communicate and agree on things that really matter to you as a couple

As desirable as that might be to that partner, it could be a right step at the wrong time as issues could still exist that need to be settled before taking such huge leap.

Generally, regardless of how blissful the relationship feels, no one should feel overly-excited or unduly pressured into making or accepting a marriage proposal until the following three issues are discussed:

1. Finances

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Money, how it’s going to be earned and spent, and other related talks need to be firmly had before you even think of proposing to anyone.

This is not a discussion that should wait till after the marriage proposal has been made, or after the marriage has been sealed already.

Babes and guys need to have, at least, a sketchy idea of what their financial ideologies are before getting engaged, and after that, further talks can be had.

But what’s certain, you don’t want to wait till you are married before you discuss this. No, fam, you can’t do that.

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2. Parenting styles

Guys, long before you propose to her, you should have asked your babe: ”Do you want to be the kind of mum who stays / works from home and cares for the kids all day?”

And babes, ask him: “Are you the type of husband that places that demand on his wife?”

You also need to know whether you both agree on what punishment for kids means. Does one believe in whipping and the other can’t ever stand kids being whipped?

You need to ask these parenting-related questions, ladies and gentlemen.

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You can’t claim to know someone fully without knowing these aspects that will obviously impact your eventual marriage to them.

Have these talks. Find a common ground. Don’t leave things to chances.

3. Chemistry

Sexual compatibilityquickly jumps to mind here, but there are other things to consider apart from this.

How outgoing are you? How about him? Does your idea of fun align? Would one be willing to bend or shift to accommodate the other?

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How does anyone try to marry another without touching on these questions at some point before popping the big question?

Check out the video below to watch vlogger, Uwanma Odefa shed more light on the subject on her Youtube series; “Love, Life and Everything in Between”

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