My mum has a problem with the girl I want to marry

Dear Bukky,

Hi I am one of your followers on Facebook and I have a challenge that I wish to share with you.

I have been a close friends with a lady, for more than a year now. The friendship has, over time, developed into something more serious, and I have considered her for a future wife, though she's yet to say an affirmative YES.

In over a year, she has visited me at my parent's place, for the second time, on 8th October.

Just this evening, my mum called me up to the balcony for a "personal discussion". With so much confidence, she said to me, "if you are considering marrying that lady, have a rethink, because she is older than you."

I asked her if she knows the lady's age, but she didn't answer me.

Now, the issue is, I truly don't know her age, but from all I know about her, she can't be older than me. Even if she is, it can't be more than two years.

Whatever her age is, I sincerely don't have an issue with it either.

Please, I need your advice.

Thank you so much.______________

Dear reader,

I have to say that I find it a little weird that you have known someone, gotten close to her to the point of considering her for a future together, but haven’t bothered to ask for her age.

Now I’m not saying age should decide whether you’ll love someone or not. Of course, far from it. I strongly believe that so far you both are of legal age and prepared for the responsibilities that come with it.

First step you need to take is ask that woman about her age. That should not be difficult.

That being said about age, I think you need to have a chat with your mum. Her issue with your choice might actually not even be about age.

You should ask her what she really thinks and what her reasons for saying ‘No’ are.

I mean, you could find out that the lady is younger or the same age as you and your mum would still not consent to the relationship.

So get her to reveal to you what’s really on her mind.

In my opinion though, when your desire and your parents’ desire clash, as an adult, you don’t have to choose their opinion just because they said so.

In the end, you’ll have to decide what’s best for you.________________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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