Relationship Talk My boyfriend asks for my nude pictures; how do I make him stop?

He sends them and pressurises me to do vice versa. I don't want to leave him because I love him.

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Dear Bukky,

I have been in a very good relationship with this guy for three years and it's very intimate because we both hope to get married.

He's  very respectful and very religious and we both discuss all issues  no matter hard they are. He always offers his most sincere advice.

He not that type who enjoys showing his nudes and I have never seen him naked. Infact he always says all this stuff offends God.

Until this day, I told him I accidentally saw a man naked (and this was because we discuss almost everything).

Without even asking who and what happened... he immediately sent me the picture of his penis and he's been putting pressure on me that I do vice versa.

Everything about his attitude changed afterwards.

I'm confused about this. Does he love me at all!? Why can that simple statement change him or does it mean he doesn't trust me?!

Could he have forgotten that he once said that all these stuff offend God!?

What should I do!!? Please help... tell me where I was foolish or whatever advice you can offer.

I'm honestly not comfortable with this but I love him so much.
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Hi reader,

We have once published an article here on why not all things need to be discussed with one's partner. And it is for this type of situations that it is necessary to leave some things unsaid.

That being said, I really can't be sure why your guy changed but it appears to me that he has always liked the idea of sharing and receiving nudes.

His earlier statements about not liking nudes could be because he was aware you wouldn't like the idea at all.

But since you saw someone's nudes, he probably took that as a change of position on the matter.

I think you need to talk him and let him know that you remain unmoved and unchanged in your attitude towards sharing and receiving nudes.

You need to let him know how you feel about him sending or asking you for those clips and pictures.
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