Great sex or money; which should I choose?

Dear Bukky,

I have two guys in my life. One is good in bed and I am 3 years older than him.

The other is older than me with two years but he’s bad in bed.

Now both of them want me to marry them. My concern now is that the one that’s bad in bed has been financially supporting me while the latter hasn't, although he says that’s because I never ask him for assistance when I need it.

I really like the one that is bad in bed but love the other. Please what do I do? I feel pity for the other one that is bad in bed._______________

Dear reader,

Never get into a relationship with someone because you pity them, let alone a marriage.

If the basis of what you feel for them is compassion or pity, don’t ever do it.

I also will advise you to stop collecting money from him till this phase of indecision passes.

Do not let money or the explosiveness of sex be the only parameters of judging both men though.

Who treats you better, respects you more, makes you feel secure and safe? Who brings you peace, comfort, make you laugh, pushes you to be better, supports you [not just with money]?

I don’t think anyone can help you decide who to spend the rest of your life with but I guess the tips above can slightly nudge you in the right direction to go.

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