The second part of things women want in bed is brought to you courtesy Dr Juliet Moses.
We conclude our series on the things women want from their men in bed but would not say them out.
6. More oral
Most men, especially from this part of the world, seem to equate women wanting oral sex as loose and cheap but in truth, giving a woman the tongue can be the missing link in having the mind blowing sex life you have always longed with her.
For some reason, some men do have a strange ill-defined relationship with female genitalia while they fully expect oral sex for themselves. They rarely return this favour, and when they do, some would not give it the full concentration the act requires.
But let's make it clear that some women do have a problem getting aroused and tickling their extra-erogenous zones with your tongue could do the magic. Endow your woman with the kind of foreplay she deserves and you will be amazed at what she would give in return.
Quick tip: Not all women like this act performed the same way. You'll have to experiment a little bit, gauge her reaction and figure out what she likes best. Again, communication is your best friend, ask her what she likes and get it right. Nothing will satisfy her more.
The place of communication during sex can never be overemphasized neither can it be thrown to the back bench. We have said it before and we will not be tired of repeating the fact that women are vocal beings. They moan with pleasure when you do something right and remain stuck when you are just slobbering. The same can be said of men. A woman is not an encyclopedia of sex moves. Ask her what she wants you to do to her and you will be surprised that you only scratched her surface.
You will find the more open you are about sex with your partner, the better and better it gets. Don't let your ego get in the way and drop all those walls.
Quick tip: Don't be to aggressive about the communication, let it flow naturally.
8. Be a little adventurous
Gone are the days when sex was only carried out behind closed doors, lights turned out and with specific time tables. These days, women want some spontaneity, some sense of adventure and, well, surprise.
How do you think your woman would react when you creep up to her in the kitchen while she is frying some eggs, pull her dress apart and slot into her from behind? How about getting it on in the bathroom, on the dining table or in the car?
Few things get a woman going as fast as the risk of getting caught so take her by surprise
Quick tip: Make it a quickie, as the name implies!
9. Find her fantasy
If you take a dive into the minds of women, you will be surprised to realise that the section reserved for kinky sex is beautiful and strange.
Finding her fantasy and fulfilling them could be a very telling and rewarding experiment but if things go according to plan, your sex life is never going to be the same again. It's going to be about a 1000 times better in fact.
All women have fantasies and they want the man in their life to indulge them. Of course, societal perceptions and the fear that you'll be put off by them if they told you themselves makes it a little hard to probe them about it.
However, be persistent though because once you know what it is, you can work on indulging every last fantasy. A favor they'll only be too happy to return in the future we're sure.
Quick tip: Be prepared for anything. The dark trenches of a woman's mind hold all sorts of possibilities and it might be a bit of a pandora's box if you open it up entirely! Still, if at any point you feel uncomfortable doing something she fantasizes about, just be upfront and tell her the same. She'll be glad you did and appreciate your honesty.
10. Be aggressive
Women love men who are aggressive during sex: hey, we are not talking about being abusive, beating her or practicing the '50 Shades of Grey' kind of love making here. We mean the mild hair pulling, playful ear biting, the once-in-a-while rough sex and so on.
Quick tip: There's no hard and fast rule here - you don't necessarily have to be the aggressor on every occasion and also, pick her up and throw her around a bit. There's nothing she'll love more than that.