So, you've had orgasm before but orgasms can be different. Here is how to make it more intense than usual, easy tips!
In collaboration with Emily Nagoski Ph.D who is the author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your sex Life.
Studies have been done to find out how possible it is to extend the duration of the female orgasm from between 6 to 30 seconds to a full minute.
Here are a few steps that can help
1. Imagine your bedroom as an hotel room
The reason for this is that you need the place to be a complete relaxation place, a place where you can lay back and relax. If you’ve got kids, it needs to be a place where the kids cannot disturb and try as much as possible to make it romantic. The atmosphere has to make good that you can focus your mind on the pleasure you’re about to have.
2. Sweet words galore
How you and your spouse feel goes a long to make the one full minute orgasm a reality, if you feel good about yourself, the sex will definitely feel good. If you feel self-conscious, it will sap you sex drive faster than one of the five worst sex positions. Insecurity distracts you and inhibits your pleasure, says Nagoski.
Compliment her as much as you can, make her feel hot, make her feel wanted.
3. Dirty Talk
This is one way to get the best out of your partner in bed, Find out what your partner likes to hear, and what words turn them in and use those to stimulate those parts of her in ways she hasn’t imagined.
4. Don’t rush foreplay
Foreplay can get a lady closer to orgasm than you. Being brought to the brink of orgasm repeatedly will cause your arousal to spread throughout your whole body—resulting in a bigger, longer climax when you finally peak, says Nagoski. If she likes oral sex, then you need to learn how to do that, also take cues from her and how best to pleasure her senses using your mouth and perhaps your fingers too. Most importantly, take your instructions from her.
5. Be prepared
Planning is vital to this plan, it’s not just to start it. Working multiple sex acts into one session can help prolong your orgasm because the variation creates more tension and arousal, says Van Kirk. Cover your basis for foreplay and sex itself.
6. Let him back off a little
When some women are on the brink of orgasm, their clitorises become very sensitive. If that’s the case, asking him to stimulate you more gently may help you maintain your climax for longer, says Van Kirk.
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You might need him to back off a bit when your orgasm is very close depending on you as a lady.Also consider inviting him to use his fingers or tongue or even vibrator over the clitoris.