In Nigeria, most parents shy away from having open and honest conversations about sex.
The mum went holier-than-thou over her daughter's innocent post that preached against rape. Her mother even threatened her with the classic "you want to go back to Nigeria?" line.
Instablog9ja posted the convo between mum and daughter today, Thursday, March 3, 2017. The back and forth reveals how Nigerian parents teach their kids about sex.
Nigerian parents shy away from talking about sex to their kids in practical ways. Puberty, sexual urges, STDs, AIDS, condoms are more or fewer taboos in many Nigerian homes. Nigerian parents are usually quiet about these.
Instead, Nigerian parents talk about sex only in religious terms. It's a black and white approach. Sex is bad and not good. "If you allow a boy touch you, you will be pregnant" is a classic line. Mothers use this line to scare their daughters from talking to men.
Most Nigerian fathers and daughters don't have the sex talk with their kids. They don't give them sex education. They use religious fear instead. Unfortunately, when they are not at home, kids learn about sex online and on TV. What most of us know about sex we didn't learn from our parents. Teenage hormones and curiosity led the way.
It's sad that Nigerian parents have carried on the tradition of sexism also. They encourage boys to sow their wild oats but tell the girls to stay indoors. When the girls become 30-year-old women they hound them about bringing a man home. Ironic isn't it?
Nigerian parents have an iron-clad approach about sex. They don't talk about it and they won't tolerate an open discussion about it at home. Instead of breaking things down with logic, they misuse religion to scare you away from sex.
This environment hasn't helped kids, children talk to their parents about sex. This is one of the major reasons why the sex culture in the country isn't progressive. It is stuck in religion and not truth, and held by irrelevant traditions and not modern realities.