Readers say they will stand by a wife who was raped by armed robbers

isaac dachen

August 12, 2016 12:14 PM

64% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters have thrown their weight behind Bolaji in his resolve to stay strong behind his wife after his family want him to send her away because she was raped by robbers.

A truly confused man needs advice

After reading his letter, 64% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the view that he should stand by the woman who has helped him in no small way.

Read his letter here:

"My name is Bolaji, a 42-year-old man who has been married for 12 years now. My wife, Tinu, has been a very loyal woman who has been by my side through thick and thin. Anytime I am low financially, she would be the one to run the home with money from her business, even as far as paying the school fees of the children.

When we decided to build our own house, Tinu contributed almost 30% of the money we needed and today, we are proud owners of our house. I love my wife so much and I had vowed never to leave her no matter the circumstances but my family is insisting she must leave my house over an incident that she had no control over.

It happened that five months ago, a gang of armed robbers stormed our area in Ikorodu, Lagos State, and carried out a house to house raid. When they got to my house, they robbed us of our valuables and after that, they said they were going to rape my wife.

They pointed a gun to my head and said they would kill me if I made any move. We begged and begged but they refused and two of them forcefully raped my wife, before making their exit.

When my family heard what happened, instead of being sympathetic with us, they invited us to our village in Ogun State and came out with the verdict that my wife must leave as it was an abomination in our family for a married woman to be raped.

They also forbade me from having sex with her or eating her food, saying I would die if I did so unless some expensive sacrifices are made.

I have resisted them so far, telling them that I love my wife and it was not her fault that she was raped but they have vowed to place a curse on me if I do not send Tinu away.

I am really scared and confused on what to do now.

Bolaji."

The teaser for the day was:

Would you divorce your wife if she was raped in your presence?

How Nigeria voted:

Yes, it is an abomination - 15%

No, it was not her fault that she was raped - 21%

I would stand by her no matter what - 64%

How would you vote here?

isaac dachen