Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say they will end a marriage if a husband impregnates another woman

A large number of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the view that if a spouse is cheating, the marriage should end.

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Tolani has been married for the past 10 years but she never knew that her world would collapse owing to her husband's unbridled philandering. Not just satisfied with running after women outside his marriage, Bayo has got Tolani's young niece pregnant.

She does not want to do but if we are to go with the response of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters, she should walk away from the marriage.

Read her letter here:

"My name is Tolani, a 32-year-old woman, married for the past 10 years but as I write this in tears, that marriage has collapsed because of what my husband, Bayo did.

I have always known that Bayo has been cheating on me right from the day we were married though, I have been the kind of woman that practises 'see-no-evil, speak-no-evil', since I had never caught him neither did he bring the women home.

I have heard stories of his philandering and how he spent money on women outside, even when he told me he had no money but I always turned deaf ears to the stories, always supporting him when such stories came up.

But then, I felt I should have reacted then and walked away because the shame he has put me and the family is unbearable. You won't believe that my husband has impregnated my own niece, my elder sister's 18-year-old daughter who came to stay with us after she could not gain admission into the university after sitting for JAMB twice.

Laide and her parents, lived in Abuja and according to what her mother told me, was wayward and had strings of boyfriends, and even at that age, slept out several times and all attempts to correct her fell on deaf ears.

Knowing the kind of strict person I am, my sister felt I would be able to curb her excesses  and bundled her to come stay with me. When she came, I laid down the rules: no going out without my say so, no friends and no parties. Initially, she seemed to abide by my rules and when I sent words to my sister on her change, she was happy and told me to keep her as long as I want.

She became a hit with Bayo and since he took her as his own sister, I felt quite comfortable leaving them together at home most time. Little did I know that their closeness was more than met the eyes until I noticed changes in her. As a woman, I immediately realised those changes were not normal and questioned her but she promptly told me nothing was wrong with her.

After placing her on close observation for some days, I decided to take her for a test in the hospital and my worst fears were confirmed. Laide was five months pregnant and according to the doctor, she had taken drugs to terminate it but to no avail. I questioned her on who was responsible but she refused to tell me until I threatened fire and brimstone before she opened up to say it was Uncle Bayo that got her pregnant.

When I confronted the randy he-goat, he initially denied but when Laide said to his face that he was the one that impregnated her, he owned up and begged for forgiveness.

I am devastated and do not even know how to tell my sister and our family members that my own husband got my niece pregnant.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if your husband impregnates your niece?

How Nigeria voted:

That will be the end of the marriage - 43%

I will stay with my husband but the girl must leave my house - 35%

He must marry my niece - 6%

I will quietly terminate the pregnancy and pretend it did not happen - 19%

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