Readers say it is better to confess to a spouse that the children are not his

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October 27, 2015 11:08 AM

Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say it is best to confess if a spouse is not the real owner of the children in the marriage.

A really worried woman in need of advice

A reader, Opeyemi, is a worried and confused woman at the moment and needs some urgent advice.

This is the letter she sent to Pulse:

"My name is Opeyemi and I am a married woman with three children. I have been married for 15 years but I have been keeping a deadly secret which has been eating into me and after I ran to my pastor to confess, he told me to tell my husband and his family so I can have peace.

After five years of marriage and trying all means of getting pregnant to no avail, my husband's family were on my neck to give them a child, as if I was the reason we could not have one.

My husband and I did a lot of tests together and it turned out he had watery sperm and the doctors told us it would take a miracle for him to get me pregnant, giving us a 20% chance.

But when the pressure from my husband's family got out of hand, I was forced to seek help outside and that was how I persuaded my ex-boyfriend to and he did: three times.

Now my husband and his people think the children are his and he would be shattered if he hears that they are not his.

And to compound issues, the father of my children has been threatening thunder and brimstone, wanting to take back his children. That was what forced me in the first place to go to my pastor."

This was the question for the day on Pulse Nigeria Poll:

Would you confess to your spouse that the children are not his?

How Nigeria voted?

79% - Yes, I will to free my conscience

21% - No, I will not confess ever

How will you vote?

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