Readers say Dolapo can go ahead and have her child

isaac dachen

September 30, 2016 10:43 AM

41% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the belief that a woman can have a baby even if the man is not willing to accept responsibility.

This worried woman needs advice (Illustration)

Read her story here:

"My name is Dolapo, a 32-year-old woman who is facing a very difficult decision and I need advice from fellow readers on how to go about this.

I know that at my age, I should be talking of a husband and not a boyfriend but that is the situation I have found myself.

I am currently three months pregnant for my boyfriend, Tope, who is insisting on me as he is not ready to be a father. This will make it the third time he will be forcing me to have an abortion but this time, I am not so sure I want to do his bidding.

I met Tope four years ago after a man I dated for seven years abandoned me and got married to another woman. I had vowed never to have anything to do with men after Dimeji abandoned me after all I had done for him.

But when Tope came into my life, he promised to help me wipe out the pains I was going through. He was so nice that before I knew it, I had fallen so much in love with him and had hopes of getting married to him.

But when I got pregnant after just six months, I thought that would make him hasten our marriage but he pleaded that it was just too sudden and that I should abort the baby which I reluctantly did.

The following year, I took in again and he also insisted I get rid of the baby. When I found out that I was pregnant this time around, I was reluctant to tell him but when he found out, he yet again, insisted I abort the baby but so far, I have stood my grounds.

Now he is threatening to leave me if I insist on having the baby. He has stopped picking my calls and has barred me from visiting him until I do what he wants.

I am really confused. I love him quite alright but how many times would I keep aborting my baby, knowing that my biological clock is fast ticking away?

Dolapo."

The teaser for the day was:

Would you advise a 32-year-old woman to abort her baby because her boyfriend wants her to?

How Nigeria voted:

Yes, she should not give birth to a child whose father is not ready to accept - 19%

No, she should forget about him and have her baby - 41%

Abortion in any form is a sin - 13%

She can be a single mother and have her baby - 27%

How would you vote here?

isaac dachen