What would you do if your realise your spouse is gay?

isaac

April 20, 2015 9:34 AM

If you find out that your spouse has been engaging in gay sex, what would be your reaction?

An angry husband

"Dear Pulse,

My name is Tunde and I have been married to the most gorgeous woman, Julia, for the past four years. Though we are still looking up to God for the fruit of the womb, I have not allowed that bother me as I believe that God's time is the best.

But something happened a month ago that is really tearing me apart. I have prayed for directions on how to handle this issue but I am still at a cross road.

When I met Julia, she was living with a female flat mate, Laura, and they were so close that one would think they were sisters.

It took a lot f effort to convince her to marry because she did not want to let go of her friend. In fact, she even wanted her to move in with us, something I thought was quite unnatural.

Even after our marriage, Laura never stopped coming around and most nights, she would sleep over and my wife always prefers her company to mine. Most nights, she would go to the guest room where they would chat and stay together till very late before she comes back.

At such times, sex with her will be a bore. Little did I know that they were engaged in a lesbian relationship till I decided to find out why my wife preferred being with her female friend.

During the last election where there was movement restriction, Laura came to spend the weekend with us and as usual, my wife spent almost the whole time with her.

On the Saturday of the presidential election, I had gone out to vote but the crowd at my polling unit was so much that I had to go back home hoping to go again later in the day. But I was shocked when I walked into our sitting room to meet my wife and her friend engaged in .

The sight was so nauseating that I almost threw up. When they noticed my presence, they fled into the guest room while I went out in a daze.

Since that day, Julia has been begging me to forgive her and in her confession, said she and Laura had been lesbian lovers for more than 10 years.

What do you think I should do?

Tunde,

Lagos."

Dear readers, the ball is now in your court. On Morning Teaser today, we ask: what would you do if you find out that your spouse is gay?

isaac