'My wife insults my parents'

isaac dachen

August 10, 2016 10:00 AM

If you are unlucky to be married to a woman who insults and fights your family members, to the extent they all refuse to reckon with you, what would you do?

A sad black man

"Dear Pulse,

My name is and I have been married for five years but my marriage is heading down the rocks because of the attitude of my wife, . She is so troublesome and heady, so much that my family members, especially my parents.

Before we got married, Idara was one nice and gentle lady who showed so much love to my family and I can remember that it was my mother who insisted I get married to her because of her gentle nature. Idara was so accommodating and my siblings came to love her and often took sides with her whenever we had issues.

I never knew she was doing all those things to get them to support her because I also had another lady who also wanted me to marry her. Shortly after our wedding, Idara began showing signs of possessiveness and started laying down the rules.

She started getting petty and uncomfortable whenever members of my family came to visit. She made it clear they were not welcome and that they need to seek her permission before coming. At first, I thought she just wanted some privacy since we were newly married but I later noticed that her people were always welcome while she was mad anytime my people came.

I remember when mother came to visit and had planned to stay for some weeks but my wife told me plainly that my mother had to leave after just three days. I insisted that my mother can stay as long as she wanted but Idara got mad at this and took it out on my mother. She would starve the poor woman whenever I was not around, locking the food in the fridge or even locking the kitchen.

When my mother complained, my wife insulted her and told her she should go back to her husband's house or go and stay with her other children. I tried to talk sense into her but she insulted and abused the hell out of me.

This trend has continued and has caused a serious friction between my family and myself as they have vowed never to come to my house. My mother refused to come when our first child was born and almost two years down the line, she has not seen her grandchild while my siblings too have alienated me all because of my wife.

I am really fed up and don't know if I can continue in the marriage any longer.

Justin."

Dear readers, on Morning Teaser today, we ask: what would you do if your spouse insults your family?

isaac dachen