‘My husband has not slept with me for two years’

isaac dachen

December 8, 2016 10:39 AM

How would you advise a woman whose husband has starved of sex for over two years? That is the situation Sonia has found herself in.

Bad sex can destroy a good marriage

You would not believe that in that last two years, my husband, , has not slept with me and anytime I complain, he would tell me that sex is not food and if I cannot stay without it, I could leave his house.

The problem started when my husband got a huge contract that took him out of the state and country often.

Most men make the mistake that their wives do not know when they start having affairs but the wife is the first to know, so immediately Ben started keeping several mistresses, I knew about it but I was not worried initially.

But when I became worried was when he came back from Abuja where he had been for three months and I expected we were going to make love all night like we used to do whenever he came back from a journey.

But when I tried to get him aroused in the night, my husband told me he was very tired and not in the mood for sex.

This continued for over a week and when I complained, he told me he was not interested in sex as he had so many things on his mind.

Every time he comes home, it would seem as if he was in a prison and could not wait to jet out again. I began to discreetly check out his phones, email and text messages and it was very glaring that he had so many ladies he was sleeping with in different places.

When I could no longer cope with the humiliation, I confronted him and it led to a very big quarrel and he even beat me up and vowed never to sleep with me again since I had the effrontery to challenge him as the man.

And it has been so in the past two years as all efforts to get him to change his mind has remained futile. I have reported to his family members, his friends, and even our pastor but Ben has refused to change.

My last resort is to get myself a sex partner instead of continuing to suffer this disgrace. Or what do you think?

Sonia.”

Dear readers, after reading Sonia’s story on Morning Teaser today, we want you to advise her on what to do in this sort of situation.

isaac dachen