What would you do if your housemaid takes over your husband?
My name is Patricia Okagbue, a married mother of three. I have been married for nine years now but in the past six months, it seems I have lost my husband to my housemaid as she has taken over my duties and my husband does not see anything wrong in that.
I got the girl, Adjoa, a Togolese from an agency about two years ago after the birth of my third child, after my last maid left unceremoniously. As a career woman, I needed someone to help take care of my baby as well do the chores at home while I am away.
Adjoa, in truth, is very hard working and makes the house spic and span at all times and my children seem to take to her like a second mother. She integrated into the household easily and practically took over the running of the home like cooking, washing and even ironing my husband's clothes.
My husband, Derrick, has always been someone who is very difficult to please but if you get into his good books, he would do everything possible to show his appreciation.
At first, he complained about Adjoa doing practically everything in the house including cooking and serving his meals but I told him there is nothing to it.
Little did I know I was digging my grave because about six months ago, he began to show more interest in Adjoa and her affairs. He bought her new clothes and even volunteered to take her to the market and the salon to make her hair.
With time, he stopped eating any food I prepare, preferring Adjoa to cook for him. I became more than worried when sex became a chore and very boring with him. I asked him several times whether I have offended him in anyway but he said there was nothing to it.
Even sitting together as a husband and wife became an issue. Then one night, it all came to the fore when he called out Adjoa's name while we were making love.
When I confronted him on that, he told me plainly that he was in love with her and would gladly make her his second wife. When I threatened to send her away, ho told me plainly never to contemplate such as I will rather be the one to go.
I think this Togo girl has given my husband a love potion and I don't know what to do.
Please can someone out there help me out?
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