'I have been living in hell in my husband's house'

isaac dachen

September 22, 2016 10:10 AM

Why is it very convenient to blame a woman when a couple fail to bear children after some years in a marriage?

Depressed black woman

My husband's family, especially his mother and sisters have made my life so miserable that at times, I contemplate committing suicide.

My husband, , has not helped matters as he has stopped defending me and has also given me an ultimatum to give him a child or he would send me packing from his house, a house I contributed to building.

I got married to Dan when I was just 20 and we had planned to have four children in quick succession so as to have ample time to take care of them.

But after two years and the babies refused to come, I began to worry but Daniel was always telling me not to worry as he was sure nothing was wrong with us.

But after five years, I became frenetic and went to many hospitals, fertility clinics, and churches to seek for a solution. In all of these, the tests showed there was nothing wrong with me and that I should just be patient and not stress myself with worries.

Then came my in-laws who started asking questions. My mother-in-law, in particular, was not making life easy for me as she used every opportunity to insinuate that she is yet to taste the joy of being a grandmother, even though three of her married daughters have children of their own.

But for her, she will be fulfilled when her son gave her grandchildren. Now, they are all blaming me for not bearing a child for their son as if I am God who gives children.

My husband's sisters, on the other hand, have been telling him to get another wife and the eldest has even gone as far as matchmaking him with some other women.

I am really at my wit's end and if I do not find a solution fast, I may just end up killing myself.

Maria."

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