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Morning Teaser 'I discovered my fiancee is related to me'

Raphael has never been happier in his life with his fiancee, Imaobong but just when his joy is about being fulfilled, tradition comes in to destroy it.

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"Dear Pulse,

My name is Raphael, a 38-year-old man from the southern part of the country. I am in a serious dilemma at the moment and I really do need advice to get myself out of this problem.

I have been living and working in Lagos for over 10 years now and I hardly go home except for Christmas and special occasions.

I met Imaobong three years ago at an event organized by our people and fell in love with her immediately, especially when we got talking and I got to know that her mother is from my town.

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Imaobong became the most important woman in life because apart from having all the qualities any man would want in a woman, she proved to be dependable, respectful, caring and someone who would be there for her husband and children no matter what.

Before I met Imaobong, my parents, especially my mother, have been on my neck to get married, settle down and become a responsible man since I have a good job.

When I informed my mother that I had finally found the woman I wanted to get married to, she was over the moon with joy, especially when she knew Imaobong's mother was from our town.

My mother and my fiancee became very close and always talked on the phone and knowing my mother, she must have put pressure on Imaobong to do everything possible to hasten our marriage.

So I was not surprised when Imaobong informed me that she was pregnant five months ago. I was very happy and informed my mother about it. But I was surprised when she told me that she knew already and that we should come home immediately so we could go and meet Imaobong's parents.

Last month, we decided to go home and start proceedings for our marriage and that was when I was shocked beyond words. The moment my parents saw Imaobong, they screamed and I heard my father asking God why such an abomination could befall him.

I did not understand what he meant and sought for an explanation. My father took me to his room and calmly told me that Imaobong and I were related by blood and having sex with her was a great curse.

I asked him to explain how we were related and he told me that Imaobong's mother was his first cousin and that the tradition of our land forbids us from sleeping together and getting married.

The relationship was confirmed when we went to Imaobong's family house. Her mother was crying bitterly and asking God why such calamity should befall on her.

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As it stands now, apart from losing the woman I love with my life, it has been agreed that Imaobong should abort the pregnancy because the child would bring bad luck to the family. We will also have to make some sacrifices to atone the gods of the land so as to avert calamity.

I am tempted to stand my ground, marry Imaobong, have our baby and dare the consequences but our elders have told us that it would all end in disaster.

What should I do in this situation?


Dear readers, having gone through Raphael's pathetic love story on Morning Teaser today, what do you think he should do in this dilemma he has found himself in?

What do you think Raphael should do?»

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