The woman named Nkiruka, (username @stillkinkkygal), posted a picture of herself in a wedding brochure, and added a long caption with which she explains that the recent news of Mrs. Ronke Bewaji Shonde, who was allegedly beaten to death by her husband, inspired her decision to share her own story which, thankfully, did not end in death.
The woman listed reasons why women found it hard to walk away from cases from domestic violence, and said she made the tough decision even though she had to leave with nothing. She ends her story on a strong note, saying she was grateful she made the step, and that she is better for it now.
Read the full post below:
"The domestic [violence] story that led to the death of [Ronke Bewaji Shonde] today broke my heart and took me back to memory lane. Yes that is my ex husband and [me.] I was just 19 years [in] that photo, you can see the innocence in my eyes.
We where perfect, very perfect , outside but we fought inside. You see that smile on that picture was plastic. I was beaten to the [altar] on my wedding day. What happened because I was tired and refused to pack plate. I swallowed it and [marched] to the [altar].
With tears In my eyes the pastor asked will you take him as your husband for better for worse , till death do you part?? Tears rolled down my eyes but the crowed clapped, screaming tears of joy. I embarked on the journey of marriage. At the age of 19 years I endured like a lion.
This fine young man here is an animal. He beat me up and even beat up my younger [ones]. The day he beat me to coma, he was beating my lifeless body before he was stopped and I was rushed to the hospital. Do you know what my [mother-in-law] told me as I gained consciousness , she said "Nkiru, lucky will beat you again o, get ready cause the father beat me too." I went back in to coma.
He begged and I went back home. This continued until I decided to face reality. But the truth is, do you know why we women endure domestic violence ???
1) [F]inancial security. Yes I was scared to leave because I did not know how to begin financially.
2) [S]ociety... Yes after bragging to my friends, and society see you as a lucky perfect girl you will want to keep it that way.
3) [L]oneliness ... Yes you are scared if [you] will find someone better. I was saying who will marry me again, with my boobs like this, stretch marks, milk was still coming out of my boobs as of then, my big [tummy] etc, I was insecure, so I stayed.
Until one day, I woke and took a strong decision to walk away. And when I left I left with nothing. I left empty handed and embarked of this journey. I kept repeating my name , Nkiruka, Nkiruka, Nkiruka (my future is bigge)r until I reached my destination. Now I can hit my chest and tell myself I took the right step, even [though] I never knew where I was going."