Ashionye and Carl Raccah shares the story of their 15-year-old love life
Popular actress ,producer and singer Ashionye Raccah and her husband Carl share the story of how they met and fell in love in an interview with Punch on March 28, 2015.
The pair met 15 years ago at the office of the then Managing Director of MTN Nigeria. When Ashionye first met her husband, she was astonished at how long his hair was; the length reached his waist.
The pair who have have known each other for 15 years but have only been married for six years. They dated for eight years, broke if off, came back together and decided to get married.
Why did your courtship last eight years?
Carl: I wanted to fortify my career and I didn’t think it was proper to make someone else’s daughter live in a condition that was to some extent insecure. I always told myself we would get married once we achieved some level of growth in our careers. It never happened the way we planned it, so we decided to get married nevertheless.
How did he propose?
Ashionye: I found the ring hidden in his socks which was placed somewhere in his wardrobe. Although I had my things at his place, I didn’t see the engagement coming. When I showed him the ring, he said, “you ruined the surprise,’’ and I told him to go ahead and propose.
How would you describe your marriage?
Ashionye: It has been great because I married my friend. We have our ups and downs, we argue but always find a meeting point. I love my opinions to be heard at all times.
Carl: It is a democratic relationship because she decides and I agree.
Does his race and nationality come to play?
Ashionye: I do not even see his skin colour because he is just like you and I. I did not know he knew so much about Nigeria. He is more Nigerian than I am.
Carl: I am a little different from most white-skinned people who live in Nigeria because I was born and raised in Kano State. I speak Hausa fluently and I understand the northern culture. Ironically, the first time I encountered racism was while I was schooling in England because I am brown and not white. I am not what you would call a white man or expatriate. What matters is who is you are because my wife and I do not judge you by your colour or religion.
Were your families accommodating of your choice of spouse?
Carl: One remarkable thing that makes our marriage work is that I have not met many Nigerian families who are welcoming. Her father is one of the nicest men I have met and her siblings are not judgmental. When my late grandmother turned 104, she began to forget names and faces but she never forgot Ashionye’s.
Ashionye: When we were going to attend grandmother’s birthday, in 2004, I told my dad I was visiting Ireland with Carl. He asked if I was going to spend the rest of my life with Carl and I answered in the affirmative.
Does he help out in the house?
Ashionye: He doesn’t cook but he is a lot tidier than I am. However, he can make a mean cup of coffee. Whenever I get back from an outing, I take off my clothes and place them on the couch in the room. Without making a fuss, he folds the clothes and puts them away. He shares a very great bond with our son and baths him regularly. Our son brought more happiness to our home.
Carl: I do the washing and cleaning because I don’t care. I am a lot neater than the guy who cleans our house.
The couple who are expecting their second child together we have thier individual and company accounts, however In Europe,they have joint and individual accounts.