Vicious circle of humans challenging themselves to see who can handle more pressure than the other.
There has been some challenges in the world in the last couple of years that have ranged from really impressive to downright hilarious. Some of these challenges have been for a good cause while others are just for fun and maybe even a dare.
There is one challenge that has transcended time, class, age and status. It's called the "Pressure Challenge" The struggle for relevance. The hustle for comfort. The fight for each individual's definition of happiness.
It's there in the early hours of the day with people rushing to get to their places of employment first or to open their business spots first to attract the first level of customers for the day. You see it in the education system where students try to gain favors of the school system by being the first to be on the school property or the first to volunteer for tasks and events.
There seems to be this vicious circle of humans challenging themselves to see who can handle more pressure than the other. We are thrown into situations and circumstances that neither prepared us nor warned us of the pressure we would ensure. We are sometimes made to grow up quickly and take on the responsibilities of an adult when we ourselves still need nurturing.
The socio-economic pressures we feel as citizens of a nation where there are still cases of underdevelopment that should be unheard of and the comparing of ourselves with other nationalities where they don't have such pressures can make an individual quaver.
In all these things I have said so far, there is a pattern. A pattern to show that you're better or what you have more valuable than the other person. People compare all the time. That one friend who is constantly reminding you how and what they stand for are better than yours.
Comments and opinions about your trade and work and it's lack of their perception of excellence. I can perceive that as you read this, you can relate or even think about the effect of the pressure challenge in your life. Parents create unhealthy competition among siblings and why? They want them to be successful and the only way to achieve that is to dangle a bait of the pressure challenge to them to motivate them to be better.
When you compare yourself to someone or something, what is the purpose behind it? You don't need comparison to understand the value of excellence. You will never be 100% of everything all the time. There is always room for improvement. There is also room for constructive feedback.
You need to believe that you are enough. You need to believe that what you have is good and wonderful for someone to experience and pass that effect on to other people. When you pressurize yourself, you are telling you that you can never be good enough so the only way you may have a chance at ever feeling confident is to compete and aim to be better than everyone.
But at what cost? What are you going to give up? Who are you going to give up? A house filled with every good thing imaginable but void of people is a very empty house.
The persons feeding your pressure are in the same boat as you are. They also don't feel that they are good enough and the only way they can validate themselves is to put others down and make them feel less than human.
You can live a life without pressure. The question is DO YOU?
Written by Olabisi Oluyele.
Olabisi Oluyele Adebiyi is a relationship coach, public speaker, trainer, blogger, media personality and a plus size fashion entrepreneur. She is driven with the passion to help people manage their relationships in whatever sphere in life. She strongly believes that a life of absolute balance is like reaching for the stars: if you don’t get to the stars, you should most definitely land on the moon. She loves music, cartoons, movies, travel, good food and the beach. She can be reached on the following social media platforms
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