''I am not Big Sean's ex, I am me''

joan

June 8, 2015 3:35 PM

In her new essay, the 'Problem' singer thinks she's has more to offer than be someone's past

Ariana Grande

Ariana Grande thinks there’s too much attention on her relationships and not enough on her music. The 'Problem' singer thus decided to write a powerful essay about double standards, which she shared on social media June 7.

The 21-year-old insists she belongs to no boy a.k.a no man quoting: ''A girl can be friends with someone with a dick and not hop on it.''

Ariana writes:

''Being ’empowered’…. is not the same as being a ‘bitch’…HAVING SOMETHING TO SAY…. is not the same as HAVING A BAD ATTITUDE. What I meant when I said what I said about not being is that I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present, or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION. I… do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you.'

''I have clearly not been having the boy questions in my interviews lately because I have come to the realization that I have SO. MUCH. MORE. to talk about. I’m currently making the I’ve ever made in my life, having the best time of my life on tour with some of the greatest people I’ve ever known, working my ass off every single day.

''I come from a long bloodline of female activists. My aunt Judy was the first Italian american female president of the national press club in Washington, D.C. I think she would have been proud of me for speaking up about something that has been bothering me personally for so long… If a woman has a (or any sex for that matter)… she’s a ‘slut.’ If a man has sex…. HE’S. A. STUD. A BOSSSSSS. a KING… If a woman even TALKS about sex openly… she is shamed! Misogyny [is] still ever present.

''I can’t wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they’re dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with…. but by their value as an individual. I want the people reading this to know that they are MORE THAN enough on their own.”

During an interview with the Sun on Sunday, June 7, Ariana said, ''I’m tired of needing to be linked to a guy, I’m not 's ex, I’m not ['s] new possible girl. I’m Ariana Grande.''

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