Fear

Fear is being afraid or worried about something unpleasant.

Fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) is a factor in a man' life that needs to be fought against. What are we scared of? Why are we scared? Are we scared of the known or the unknown?

Fear of the known is going into something we know we would encounter difficulty which we are scared of facing but we still want to try it.

Fear of the unknown is going into something we don't know if we are going to face obstacles or not and we are scared of just trying it out. Fear of the unknown prevents us from moving a step ahead of our present situations/stages.

These few days in Lagos state has been crazy. I was scared of everything, scared of things going wrong, scared of getting missing and more. I stayed indoors which wasn't helping me achieve what I wanted.

Fear prevents us from taking the right decisions in life. Most times, we loose important things in life because we run away from them due to fear.

Everyday, we live our lives in fear, we sometimes walk or do things in fear yet we fail to acknowledge it. Fear can easily get to us, through our mind especially when we keep on thinking about it for too long. Fear comes with negative thinking which leads to depression, weakness, panic which turns into stress because, we overwork ourselves then maybe lead to death or something worse.

I decided to take the bold step of coming out and I cared less about everything such as getting missing, money getting stolen or phone falling off, I had to kill this fear that was eating me up especially when I don't know what was waiting at the front for me.

Fear is natural but to overcome it, we need to understand each of our fears, know what we fear most, if it is risk, rejection, failure etc we fear most.

We need to take fear away from our lives, its a killer we don't know living with us. It deprives us of coming out for the world to see who we really are, we just hide who we really are in the name of fear. Why fear?

Though, I was scared and I am still scared, I took the bull by the horn, went for what I wanted. I got rejected in most places which was my number one fear but I decided not to give up just yet, I still kept on pushing forward no matter what, I felt I have conquered a little bit of my fear somehow but deep down I know I have failed myself somehow by walking in fear.

A very close friend in his opinion says, fear is a healthy emotion because, it can be credited with being the driving force behind some of the bravest decisions ever taken.

Quoting George .R. R. Martin from 'Games of thrones' he said, "the only time a man can be brave is when he's afraid".

Whatever way we get to view fear as just note,

If we need to face the world, we have to kill the spirit of fear. Fear can make us weak and strong, it can make us failures if we so dine and wine with it depending on our driving force. Its not an achievement if we don't fight over it.

In his words, "Few people who don't know fear never really take bold steps".

Asking what are his greatest fear, he said, dying with no positive and beneficial impact whatsoever on earth.

We have to come to the understanding that, we would always experience challenges on our way. No successful man became successful without challenges or competition. Every stage has its own challenges and fear, get use to it, win over fear.

Therefore, know that, there is no greater joy than overcoming fear living in us.

Article written by Faith Otu

Faith Otu is a graduate of Mass Communication. She is a writer and she loves to share/express her feelings, experiences, ideas and more through writing.

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