9 ways to spend time alone

We live in an age whereby people are fearful of doing things by themselves because they are constantly afraid of what others are going to think/say about them.

The presence of the Egocentric wave in us that makes us feel everyone is looking at us every now and then, So we will rather do things with others than do things by ourselves. spending time alone makes you enjoy your company, build your self-esteem (as the more time you spend alone, the more comfortable you are in your own skin), Increase your ability to organize and concentrate well and also allows you to learn and grow on your own skin.

Here are ways to spend time alone:

1. Turn off your phone/IPad: Because you want to figure out exactly who you are, You want to stay off social media e.t.c and just do you for a little, Figure out what your life is without social media.

2. Take a walk: when you walk, you focus on things around, you get Inspired and connect more with your environment thereby bringing your attention to things you can personally relate to.

3. Meditate: Meditation helps improve concentration, increases self-awareness and also encourages a healthy lifestyle, so why not take some time to meditate?

4. Take yourself out to lunch or dinner: again your Egocentric wave will whisper ‘ people are going to be staring at you and they will keep wondering why you are eating all by yourself” To be honest, these people aren’t even paying attention. So enjoy your Meal and try to pay attention to every single detail of your food, you might just end up writing on how strong your taste buds are.

5. Go to the cinema alone: Just like in case of eating out, you are probably skeptical about going to the movies alone but this can be Interesting as you get to pick your snacks and choose the movie yourself and again this helps with your concentration in the sense that you wouldn’t have to whisper to a friend during the movie and Vice versa.

6. Shop: when you shop with friends you tend to be Indecisive and rely on your friend's opinion over Items you purchased. When you shop alone, you can learn to listen to your own opinion and can grow into your own style and your own self.

7. Take a Trip: When traveling alone, you can learn to listen to yourself and actually see and do things that you want to do. You also find yourself asking a lot of question because you probably don’t know your way around, this helps build your self-confidence and also gives you a sense of excitement. you can learn to get out of difficult and stressful travel situations and grow exponentially as a person asw well.

8. Get some things done: look around you and figure out things you can easily do or things you have been procrastinating on. It could be as little as cleaning your house, Rearranging your wardrobe or even adding colors to your space, anything really.

9. Try something new: preferably something you never thought you would or could do, It could be reading a book, getting a new job e.t.c. remember you are finding yourself in this process so do not be scared to push yourself more than usual.

If you find yourself saying things like “ I absolutely hate being alone, it makes me bored, I would rather hang out with my friends” what you are saying in other words is “I don’t love or Understand myself enough to enjoy my own company, I would rather hang out with people who will give me a sense of connectedness and acceptance because I don’t feel it when I am by myself”, You are most likely to have self-confidence Issues and you might just want to try few if not all that has been listed as the most important thing to take away from spending time alone is that spending time alone is the best way to build confidence.

Written by Barakah

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